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Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
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Always5 Votes - [13.51%]
2nd grade/7-8 yrs3 Votes - [8.11%]
3rd grade/8-9 yrs3 Votes - [8.11%]
4th grade0 Votes - [0%]
5th grade1 Votes - [2.7%]
6th grade/11-12 yrs3 Votes - [8.11%]
College (aka no parent to wake me up)6 Votes - [16.22%]
Freshman HS - thought I am sure 75% of the time my Mom yelled to get up9 Votes - [24.32%]
Middle School7 Votes - [18.92%]
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2010-10-15 9:01 AM

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Subject: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
I know I'm tired and cranky right now...but I take the SO's daughter to school when he has her.  On one of the morning's I need to get up and get ready while she is, but on the other mornings I just need to throw on sweats and get in the car...but I still get up early enough to get her up.  Literally I wake up to wake her up and then she does her thing...and I get on BT till she is ready :-D

So my question is...As a child, when did you start waking up on your own (for school or whatever)?  As a parent, when did you turn that responsibility over to your child?

(And I'm estimating ages...)


2010-10-15 9:08 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
I don't remember what age, but I don't ever remember having to be woken up by my parents.  I remember when I was little, I was allowed to get up at 6:30, and I remember laying there in the bed watching my clock... 6:28, 6:29.... yay!!

when you're young, you never want to go to bed and you can't wait to get up.
when you're older, you never want to get up, and you can't wait to go to bed.

 
2010-10-15 9:12 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
tealeaf - 2010-10-15 9:08 AM I don't remember what age, but I don't ever remember having to be woken up by my parents.  I remember when I was little, I was allowed to get up at 6:30, and I remember laying there in the bed watching my clock... 6:28, 6:29.... yay!!

when you're young, you never want to go to bed and you can't wait to get up.
when you're older, you never want to get up, and you can't wait to go to bed.

 


While that may be true in general...that is not true for this young lady.  She doesn't want to get up....
2010-10-15 9:17 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
How old is she? What time does she go to bed?

My 7 year old daughter is usually tucked into bed and lights are out by 8:30. Of course every now that then that may be a little earlier or a little later depending on the situation.

Even with going to bed at a mostly consistant time some days she is up on her own before 7, and some days my husband has to wake her to take her down to grandma's to get on the bus.

My 10 year old son get himself up usually by 6, or a little before. He wakes up on his own most of the time, but recently said he was going to start setting an alarm so he could be up by then. The only reason he gets up that early is because he likes to see me for a few minutes before I go to work at 6. He gets on the bus an hour earlier than my daughter, too. He usually turns out the light from reading around 9:00, give or take a few minutes.
2010-10-15 9:22 AM
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My father is an early riser with a Expresso habit.  So I was woken up every morning to the sound of the expresso machine grinding away.  So I was always up.  It was more of an effort to pry me away from the morning cartoons when I was younger.  By the time I was in middle school I was expected to get my butt to school on my own, and failure was not an option. 

2010-10-15 9:27 AM
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They're all different - some will be early-risers, others are a pain in the azz to wake up.  Just ask my 3 sons (13, 11, 5-1/2) - they're all different.
Depending on the amount of sleep they get, they'll get up fine on their own, sometimes it's a battle where I'll go upstairs and almost pull them off the bed and drag them down.
I think I woke up pretty much on my own by 6th grade (12 years old).  Since I never had my own bedroom and slept out in the living room (2 sisters in one bedroom, Mom in the 2nd bedroom, and I in the "living room" in a trailer - yes, I was a trailer-trash kid), I would hear them getting ready.



2010-10-15 9:30 AM
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I don't remember.

I've slept since then. 

2010-10-15 9:33 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
As a father of five, in my experience is that it varies with each.  The more independent, self reliant the child the sooner they get up and going on their own.  When my adult children are home for a visit I still get them up on Sundays for church (under my roof you play by my rules).
2010-10-15 10:23 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
I had a mother and a sister that "NEEDED" to get up early and get ready for work and/or school so one of them would wake me when the shower was FINALLY free. But as that became less of an issue I started waking myself up. I preferred it because my mother enjoyed coming in my room and telling me I had five more minutes to sleep. It was pure torture.
2010-10-15 10:33 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
NXS - 2010-10-15 10:33 AMAs a father of five, in my experience is that it varies with each.  The more independent, self reliant the child the sooner they get up and going on their own.  When my adult children are home for a visit I still get them up on Sundays for church (under my roof you play by my rules).


This is not the same as my experience. My more independent older son is much more difficult to get out of bed in the morning than my clingy younger son. Older son is a very sound sleeper but younger son is not. He wakes at about 6:30 am daily. ODS would sleep past 9 am daily if we didn't wake him. They are still very young though and I expect this to change. My brothers and I were woken every school day by our parents until we left home. We all had alarm clocks but it was nicer to have parents come in and open the curtains than wake up to a buzzer.
2010-10-15 10:58 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
 I have identical twin 9yo's, one gets right out of bed in the morning the other struggles(go figure). They both get themselves up using an alarm clock and have been doing that since 2nd grade.


2010-10-15 11:14 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...

1.  Set a mutually agreed upon bed time.
2.  Require child to be up and ready for school
3.  If child cannot get up on time, that bed time starts getting 30 min earlier until equilibrium is established.

Child learns all about rewards and consequences and you no longer have to wake up the child.


I think my daughter's bed time is too late but she gets up and as per her last report card, her lowest grade is a 94.  She is 14.

2010-10-15 11:30 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
I think it depends on the child.  My 2 HS age boys get up to an alarm but wouldn't wake up without one.  My 2 Elem age sons wake up on their own before 7:00AM every day, weekends included.  (Even when they stay up late, 10:00PM, they are up by 7:00.)
2010-10-15 11:42 AM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
as a child I can't remember a parent ever getting me up to go to school.  now on the weekends when I wanted to sleep-in that's another thing!

I have an 8 and 11 year old.  The 11 YO sets her alarm and gets herself going.  The 8 YO...he still needs some help.  It's an individual thing but I think at the age of 10 there is no reason why the child cannot get themselves out of bed.  That said, my wife or I will still be up to make sure they get going.
2010-10-15 12:31 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
tealeaf - 2010-10-15 7:08 AM I don't remember what age, but I don't ever remember having to be woken up by my parents.  I remember when I was little, I was allowed to get up at 6:30, and I remember laying there in the bed watching my clock... 6:28, 6:29.... yay!!

when you're young, you never want to go to bed and you can't wait to get up.
when you're older, you never want to get up, and you can't wait to go to bed.

 


Seriously? Can you give me some of this 6:30=Yay thing that you have? I've never wanted to get up. I set an alarm and I do it, but would rather stay up 'til 1-2am and get up around 8-9. Mom got me up through about 6th grade I think. Or maybe just checked that I didn't hit snooze too many times. Not sure. 

Maybe she needs more sleep. Or she may enjoy the attention from you. It is nice to feel taken care of.
2010-10-15 12:47 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
I wake up all of my kids - age 5, 7 & 9.  My 7 year old often gets up on her own as soon as she hears the dog crying in her crate at 6.  I wake them up at 6:30. 

I think I started waking myself up in middle school.  I remember having an alarm clock and learning to hit snooze.  Definitely in high school because I went to boarding school - I had no choice, dorm parents were nice but they didn't wake you up!  Then  again I'm sure the sound of 20 other girls getting ready helped wake us up.


2010-10-15 1:04 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
I think it's different for different kids.... My kids have always been early-to-be, early-to-rise types. I'm usually the first one in the house awake (usually between 5:30 - 6:00 am), but there's usually at least one kid up within a half hour of when I get up. When my kids were younger, they were ALWAYS up very early. I never needed to get anyone up. Now that I have one teenager and one soon-to-be teenager, they tend to sleep a little later (and also have to get up earlier for school). I don't usually need to wake anyone up, but if they happen to sleep in a bit on occasion, I'll get them up.
2010-10-15 2:31 PM
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My Dad woke me up for school everyday and even continued to wake me up when I was working for him one summer, but the wake-up went like this:
Door Opens
Dad says "You going to school/work today?"
Door Closes
I was in charge of getting myself up and out the door on time. He didn't come back a second time. It was much more plesant than the alarm buzzing at me.
2010-10-15 3:22 PM
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I had my three children get their self up in junior high school. It took a little work and some mind games but well worth it in the end.
2010-10-15 3:34 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
As a kid, I just got up myself.

With my kids (7, 4, and 6 months) they wake up on their own.

I like what Pector wrote.  Bedtime and routine are everything.  Consistency.


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2010-10-15 3:39 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
Sammeg - 2010-10-15 10:58 AM  I have identical twin 9yo's, one gets right out of bed in the morning the other struggles(go figure). They both get themselves up using an alarm clock and have been doing that since 2nd grade.


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I can only speak from my own experience, but I had an alarm clock from a very early age too.


2010-10-15 5:02 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
when i was little i would get up myself, Probably by 2nd grade i used an alarm clock to wake for school
2010-10-15 5:16 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
My son started using an alarm clock in Kindergarten.  He is now 7 and will sleep until we wake him or the alarm, but when the weekend hits he is up before the alarm.

In his words, "it is the weekend mommy and I don't want to waste a minute of it!"
2010-10-15 6:35 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
Until High school, it was a family affair (everyone up at the same time) so the noise generally got us up.

When I got into high school, I chose to go to a magnet school across town, and part of the deal was that I had to get myself up for school on my own. At 5:30. And if I missed the bus, that was my own problem. Once or twice I either hit snooze or didn't set the alarm correct and my dad had to wake me up (by this time it was just he and I for early morning rising), and his method was to flip on the lights and give me a "hey, let's go, rise and shine."

And now, my husband does the same. bloody. thing. And while he's super cute and I love him to bits, the turning on of a light to get me up when I don't have to work or be somewhere makes me nooootttt a happy camper.
2010-10-15 7:11 PM
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Subject: RE: Waking up children/ waking up as a child...
Every kid is sooo different.  My 6 year old just isn't a sleeper.  She'll prolong bedtime as long as possible (although lights out is 8:30 or earlier), and will be up bright and early in the morning.  If allowed, she'll be happy to stay up until 1am and party, dance, whatever.

She's got way too much energy.  Last week- during a playdate, one of her friends actually fell asleep on her in the middle of the afternoon.  some kids are sleepers, other are partiers. 

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