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2006-05-23 9:43 PM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
As a father of 2 girls, I have no problems with them dating. However,it helps that my 12yo is handicapped and will probably never date and by the time my 6 month old is dating, I'll be too senile to know what's going on.

My father-in-law once told me that he never worried about his girls dating because he knew he had raised responsible children who he could trust to make good decisions. That and he bought them all guns and taught them to shoot. Also, the first time I went home with her for the weekend, he took me out shooting and after watching how well he shot everything from a little .38 all the way to a 44 Magnum, I was scared to even hold her hand the rest of the weekend. All I could think about everytime she came near me was the sight of him emptying a full clip into the crotch of a sillouette target.


2006-05-23 10:10 PM
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2006-05-23 11:42 PM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
i love 'em. as i happen to be blessed, parents love me. (i see the super dad in me.... isnt your girl 8? then again im sure the day she was born you were worrying about the time she starts to date.)

as i said, i have been blessed to have parents love me. (son of humble roots, driven to become anything; goals, plan, and the everything is falling into place life....)




STAKE you rule

(im sure when i have a daughter i will be just like you, less scary with samller arms, but the same feeling)
2006-05-23 11:59 PM
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Stake - 2006-05-23 9:40 PM

[Legality has nothing to do with it. It won't be legal when I bury the body, so why discriminate

Dad's aren't the only good shots out there



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2006-05-24 6:54 AM
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I made up a version of this yesterday with a signature line and date at the bottom.  I'm going to put it in a frame on a wall in the house and have copies in my desk at home.  Prospective suitors will be forced to read and sign it, while sitting at the kitchen table that overlooks the wetlands behind my house.  Whether or not I am sitting across the table cleaning my gun may depend on if I'm in a good mood or not.  Or not. 

My daughter is 4, by the way.

 

2006-05-24 7:03 AM
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hangloose - 2006-05-24 7:54 AM

I made up a version of this yesterday with a signature line and date at the bottom.  I'm going to put it in a frame on a wall in the house and have copies in my desk at home.  Prospective suitors will be forced to read and sign it, while sitting at the kitchen table that overlooks the wetlands behind my house.  Whether or not I am sitting across the table cleaning my gun may depend on if I'm in a good mood or not.  Or not. 

My daughter is 4, by the way.

 

Heh.  I've got a copy in my dayplanner.  I printed it from the net. Date- 12/04/2000.  She was 3 at the time



2006-05-24 7:11 AM
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It's things like this that make me NEVER want to have a girl.

It also makes me wonder as to how I ever managed to get married. My father-in-law is retired Navy. At our wedding reception, when we went to cut the cake, he produced his sword. I thought I was about to die, but he just wanted us to cut the cake with it. Phew!
2006-05-24 7:53 AM
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This scares me. My daughters are 3 & 5. I've already decided they can never have a computer or learn what myspace.com is all about. My oldest came home yesterday with a bo\y's phone number! It was so cute - she said, "Mommy, you have to save this. It's Hunter's phone number, he wrote it down for me. Ignore the first number 1, he thought that's how you make a 5. You need to call his Mommy and ask if we can go to his house for a play date, OK?" We're definitely putting that in her baby book!

Oh, and when I was young we used to do some major flirting at hockey games, it didn't matter how many layers we were wearing.
2006-05-24 8:05 AM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
With daughters of 4, 3 and two 10 month olds, I have already decided in about five years to convieniently go through my mid life crisis by getting lots of tattoos and a collection of ancient Japanese kitanas.  I am hoping tri gets me ripped too so I have the whole DeNiro Cape Fear thing going by the time my oldest is 10.  Nothing like building a rep for crazy a few years before potential dates start coming around.  Great posts though!
2006-05-24 8:43 AM
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Scout7 - 2006-05-24 8:11 AM It's things like this that make me NEVER want to have a girl. It also makes me wonder as to how I ever managed to get married. My father-in-law is retired Navy. At our wedding reception, when we went to cut the cake, he produced his sword. I thought I was about to die, but he just wanted us to cut the cake with it. Phew!

No wonder you don't have kids!

2006-05-24 8:46 AM
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MomX3 - 2006-05-24 8:53 AM This scares me. My daughters are 3 & 5. I've already decided they can never have a computer or learn what myspace.com is all about.

myspace gets a bad rap. It's the flavor of the month, the way AOL chatrooms used to be. Mostly, it's about not letting your daughters **** themselves up and pretend they're older than they are. If you can keep them from doing that, you've got nothing to worry about.

For people that use it responsibly, it's great for networking. I use it all the time, and I've never solicited sex form a minor (or otherwise). 



2006-05-24 9:21 AM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
Stake - 2006-05-23 7:40 PM

phoenixazul - 2006-05-23 10:24 PM
jknapman - 2006-05-23 10:07 PM Why did everyone look at me when Stake posted this?
Aye lad, to be fair, you're one of the few young bucks round here that would fall into the category of being able to *legally* date another member's daughter.

Legality has nothing to do with it. It won't be legal when I bury the body, so why discriminate

I already have it figured out. When the young man turd comes over to the house, I am going to pull him off to the side, then whisper in his ear " I work in a crime lab, I can make your death look like an accident" "Have a good night"

2006-05-24 9:25 AM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter

I'm with Madcow.

I just took my 14 1/2 yo twin daughters, who never wear ANYTHING but sweats, baggy t-shirts, and  basketball shorts that hang below the knees  shopping for dresses for the eigth grade dance.  It's done up like a mini prom. 

It was fun watching them dress up and enjoy being pretty for once, but I'd like to go back to the sweats and t-shirts now please.

2006-05-24 9:26 AM
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run4yrlif - 2006-05-24 9:46 AM

MomX3 - 2006-05-24 8:53 AM This scares me. My daughters are 3 & 5. I've already decided they can never have a computer or learn what myspace.com is all about.

myspace gets a bad rap. It's the flavor of the month, the way AOL chatrooms used to be. Mostly, it's about not letting your daughters **** themselves up and pretend they're older than they are. If you can keep them from doing that, you've got nothing to worry about.

For people that use it responsibly, it's great for networking. I use it all the time, and I've never solicited sex form a minor (or otherwise). 




I was kind of exaggerating. Of course they're going to be able to use the computer - I probably won't let them keep it in their rooms though. Same way I don't let them have a TV in their room now, I just don't think they need it. I really know nothing about myspace - I've never been on it, I've only seen it on the news. It just seemed to go well with my general blabbing.
2006-05-24 9:27 AM
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Oh, and  I won't let them post on Myspace OR go into chat rooms.  Sorry there are just too many crazies out there.  You can be as careful and responsible as you want, but that doesn't keep the person on the other end of the computer from being a sick freak.

2006-05-24 9:35 AM
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MomX3 - 2006-05-24 10:26 AM I was kind of exaggerating. Of course they're going to be able to use the computer - I probably won't let them keep it in their rooms though. Same way I don't let them have a TV in their room now, I just don't think they need it. I really know nothing about myspace - I've never been on it, I've only seen it on the news. It just seemed to go well with my general blabbing.

Oh yeah, I know. Just sort of a sensitive topic for me: Blame myspace instead of accepting blame for the fact that your 14yo daughter feels the need to post half-naked pictures of herself on the internet to troll for sex. Mini rant over.

 

 



2006-05-24 9:41 AM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
I wonder if daughters who have such intimidating fathers don't ultimately end up being rebellious? Just wondering....

I was a big dork in high school (hmm maybe I still am) and did not date. I hope my son is much more aggressive and learns to relate better to girls before age 18-19 in college. He's 15 months now, so he has lots of time to learn to be a smooth operator.
2006-05-24 9:42 AM
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CindyK - 2006-05-24 10:27 AM

  Sorry there are just too many crazies out there.  You can be as careful and responsible as you want, but that doesn't keep the person on the other end of the computer from being a sick freak.

Is BT any different in that aspect?

Sorry Jim.

2006-05-24 9:44 AM
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run4yrlif - 2006-05-24 9:35 AM

Oh yeah, I know. Just sort of a sensitive topic for me: Blame myspace instead of accepting blame for the fact that your 14yo daughter feels the need to post half-naked pictures of herself on the internet to troll for sex. Mini rant over.

If you are saying that parents should be talking with thier teenage daughters about what they do and why they do it (not to mention knowing what the kids are up to to begin with!) I could not agree with you more.

However, I used to work in a position in which I had to read quite a few criminal complaints where men were charged with attempted sexual assault of a minor for attempting to meet underage girls that they had "picked up" on the internet.  In some cases these sick freaks were men in their thirties and beyond who presented themselves as teenage guys in chatrooms.  So when they said they wanted to meet the 13 yo girl that they were chatting with in person it would seem harmless to the girl in question....so just to be on the safe side, I keep my kids out of chatrooms and such.

2006-05-24 9:51 AM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
In all seriousness, I have seen many examples of kids sheltered a little too much growing up that go off the deep end in college, and I mean the deep end.  So the challenge is really finding balance between showing them right and wrong without suffocating them so they resent you and want to act idiotic just out of spite, or something like that.
2006-05-24 9:52 AM
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Subject: RE: 10 Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter
jknapman - 2006-05-24 9:42 AM
CindyK - 2006-05-24 10:27 AM

  Sorry there are just too many crazies out there.  You can be as careful and responsible as you want, but that doesn't keep the person on the other end of the computer from being a sick freak.

Is BT any different in that aspect?

 LOL...you won't see my kids here either!

Kidding....



2006-05-24 9:54 AM
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jszat - 2006-05-24 9:51 AM In all seriousness, I have seen many examples of kids sheltered a little too much growing up that go off the deep end in college, and I mean the deep end.  So the challenge is really finding balance between showing them right and wrong without suffocating them so they resent you and want to act idiotic just out of spite, or something like that.

You're right it's a tough call.  I try to always explain to them WHY I'm setting certain rules, and I'm not afraid to give examples even if the examples are grittty.  I am a huge believer in keeping kids informed as to what's out there.  And as they get older I've been giving them more freedom to use the computer, it's just been gradual.  Hence no myspace or chatrooms YET.  I just want them to be aware of what's out there...good and bad.

2006-05-24 10:07 AM
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All that other stuff is fine, but nothing beats a rep as a crazy overprotective psycho.  My cousin has a daughter who I have always had a special relationship with.  she's in high school now and dating, but she has always made sure her boyfriend is not around when I'm there.  The one time it happened a few months ago at a family get together I was coming up from the basement at their house and they were walking by the top of the stairs.  I saw some guy I never say before walk by and then her.  When she turned her head and saw it was me she said "uh-oh" and starting pushing him toward and out the front door.  We eventually met later and I made sure he was very uncomfortable around me.  I think the nature of our relationship suits me just fine and it ever makes him think twice about something it is worth the rep.

I have also been known to stop by their house at night when I know my cousin is not home just to see what's going on.  I'm sure she LOVES the fact that we live about a mile apart.

 

2006-05-24 10:09 AM
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run4yrlif - 2006-05-24 10:35 AM

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Oh yeah, I know. Just sort of a sensitive topic for me: Blame myspace instead of accepting blame for the fact that your 14yo daughter feels the need to post half-naked pictures of herself on the internet to troll for sex. Mini rant over.

 

 




If my 14-year old ever decides to post half naked pictures of herself anywhere I'll know my parenting has gone horribly wrong somewhere.
2006-05-24 10:17 AM
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This thread cracks me up. My dad scared the hell out of everyone my sister and I dated. Not that he meant to, with the exception of a few choice specimens... My dad is ex-green-beret, Vietnam Vet and was a Border Patrol agent when we were in high school (now retired). Teenage boys hear that resume and are simultaneously shaking in the boots and elevating him to a Godlike status of coolness. He's an only slightly larger than average guy (hair under 6 foot and a fit 180-190ish), but they always remembered him as huge. He's quiet, but generally attempted to make polite small talk, which they always construed as interrogation. It was always so funny. He has a remarkably well-tuned "a-hole radar" (as in we'll just be in a store, walking around and he'll just say "that guy's an a-hole" and dammit if he hasn't always been right every time I've tested the theory!), so if he didn't think the guy was an a-hole, he was just nice to them. But they were always so incredibly scared. I spent quite a few dates reassuring the guy that my Dad didn't hate him....

The thing that always got me: Dad always thought I was too hard on guys. I'd rule someone out after a date or even before that point and he'd tell me that I needed to give them more of a shot. He was worried that my rejection might hurt their feelings or something. I always told him that I could figure out pretty quick whether or not I could stand someone for long. I inherited his a-hole radar... what can I say?

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