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2013-02-04 8:27 PM
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Subject: RE: Triathlon before a wedding?

Me, my groomsmen, my to-be brother-in-laws, my dad, uncles, etc.  golfed 18 holes on the morning of my wedding.   We had time, it was an afternoon wedding.     The priest kept shouting across the course "Great day... for a...  white wedding. "

That said, it's going to be a LONG day, especially if you're going to have a big reception.  By the time that's over, you're going to be SPENT, even without an HIM/OLY in the morning. 

But hey, if you can swing it, more power to you.



2013-02-04 8:30 PM
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First off, thanks to all the people who actually gave some good advice and opinions... and for some of you, you take this thing way too serious!!!!

Yes, I've talked to my future wife about racing and I'm not sneaking behind her back! We both agreed that I could do the sprint distance as a fun race in the morning instead of a competative HIM.  I've already had it paid for and the wedding is not till late afternoon so a 1 1/2 hour race won't be an issue. 

There are no communication problems going on and she always supports my races and training, I even got her to do some races and she loves it!

I just wanted to through the question out as a conversation starter... RELAX people!

2013-02-04 9:01 PM
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jkossman - 2013-02-04 9:30 PM

First off, thanks to all the people who actually gave some good advice and opinions... and for some of you, you take this thing way too serious!!!!

Yes, I've talked to my future wife about racing and I'm not sneaking behind her back! We both agreed that I could do the sprint distance as a fun race in the morning instead of a competative HIM.  I've already had it paid for and the wedding is not till late afternoon so a 1 1/2 hour race won't be an issue. 

There are no communication problems going on and she always supports my races and training, I even got her to do some races and she loves it!

I just wanted to through the question out as a conversation starter... RELAX people!

You posted:

"She says I better not race the morning of our wedding or else...... and my reply was, 'since we can not see each other till the actual wedding anyway, how will you know what I do in the morning?' "

And we need to relax?  mmmm kay

Methinks you are a pot stirrer my good sir...



Edited by TriRSquared 2013-02-04 9:02 PM
2013-02-04 9:57 PM
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Running Q - 2013-02-05 11:31 AM
jobaxas - 2013-02-03 11:30 PM

On another note...did you not plan the day together?  How come she chose the date...?

 

Obviously written by a woman who doesn't realize that once a man asks, "will you marry me?" he relegates all other decision making to her...

WHAT!!!!  oh yeah you're right.. Embarassed

2013-02-04 9:58 PM
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jkossman - 2013-02-05 1:30 PM

First off, thanks to all the people who actually gave some good advice and opinions... and for some of you, you take this thing way too serious!!!!

Yes, I've talked to my future wife about racing and I'm not sneaking behind her back! We both agreed that I could do the sprint distance as a fun race in the morning instead of a competative HIM.  I've already had it paid for and the wedding is not till late afternoon so a 1 1/2 hour race won't be an issue. 

There are no communication problems going on and she always supports my races and training, I even got her to do some races and she loves it!

I just wanted to through the question out as a conversation starter... RELAX people!

Well it was interesting while it lasted!

2013-02-04 10:32 PM
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mehaner - 2013-02-04 11:34 AM
mr2tony - 2013-02-04 10:56 AM
lisac957 - 2013-02-04 9:39 AM
kziemer - 2013-02-04 9:35 AM

The night before, we were up late enjoying time with family and friends. If I had an HIM  the next morning, I would have skipped out on that crucial time with people who came near and far to see us.  As well, there are too many variables, especially for a long course race.

x2 - like in-laws from out of the country who apparently can only make it one weekend of the entire year...

I have a hard time wrapping my head around her parents traveling from a different country (and clearly it's a hassle with their schedule otherwise it would be on a different weekend) and the groom just not being there to help host.

No man or woman should be forced to spend time with his or her in-laws when the other isn't around. That's just a rule of marriage.

I love this rule.  Someone tell my mother-in-law, please?

Absolutely.  Give me her email.  

I used to.  I realized I don't enjoy it.  I don't any more.  I also don't call her to chat.  She gets annoyed, but it's not like my husband calls my mom just to chat.



2013-02-04 11:14 PM
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Artemis - 2013-02-05 3:32 PM
mehaner - 2013-02-04 11:34 AM
mr2tony - 2013-02-04 10:56 AM
lisac957 - 2013-02-04 9:39 AM
kziemer - 2013-02-04 9:35 AM

The night before, we were up late enjoying time with family and friends. If I had an HIM  the next morning, I would have skipped out on that crucial time with people who came near and far to see us.  As well, there are too many variables, especially for a long course race.

x2 - like in-laws from out of the country who apparently can only make it one weekend of the entire year...

I have a hard time wrapping my head around her parents traveling from a different country (and clearly it's a hassle with their schedule otherwise it would be on a different weekend) and the groom just not being there to help host.

No man or woman should be forced to spend time with his or her in-laws when the other isn't around. That's just a rule of marriage.

I love this rule.  Someone tell my mother-in-law, please?

Absolutely.  Give me her email.  

I used to.  I realized I don't enjoy it.  I don't any more.  I also don't call her to chat.  She gets annoyed, but it's not like my husband calls my mom just to chat.

My MIL didn't talk to either of us for over two years - best two years of our relationship.

2013-02-04 11:20 PM
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Artemis - 2013-02-04 10:32 PM

mehaner - 2013-02-04 11:34 AM
mr2tony - 2013-02-04 10:56 AM
lisac957 - 2013-02-04 9:39 AM
kziemer - 2013-02-04 9:35 AM

The night before, we were up late enjoying time with family and friends. If I had an HIM  the next morning, I would have skipped out on that crucial time with people who came near and far to see us.  As well, there are too many variables, especially for a long course race.

x2 - like in-laws from out of the country who apparently can only make it one weekend of the entire year...

I have a hard time wrapping my head around her parents traveling from a different country (and clearly it's a hassle with their schedule otherwise it would be on a different weekend) and the groom just not being there to help host.

No man or woman should be forced to spend time with his or her in-laws when the other isn't around. That's just a rule of marriage.

I love this rule.  Someone tell my mother-in-law, please?

Absolutely.  Give me her email.  

I used to.  I realized I don't enjoy it.  I don't any more.  I also don't call her to chat.  She gets annoyed, but it's not like my husband calls my mom just to chat.



Hi Artemis! LTNS.

Anyway I actually would have no problem hanging out with my FIL. He's a big football guy who played through college and enjoys baseball too so we have lots to talk about. We were in Vegas and hung out for a bit. Swell fella, that guy.
2013-02-05 1:05 AM
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jobaxas - 2013-02-04 9:14 PM

My MIL didn't talk to either of us for over two years - best two years of our relationship.

 

How do you arrange this? Laughing

 

Actually, things aren't too bad, since we moved to Canada, and the families live in Israel. There is something to be said for having your MIL 17 hours flight away......

2013-02-05 9:54 AM
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jkossman - 2013-02-04 9:30 PM

There are no communication problems going on and she always supports my races and training, I even got her to do some races and she loves it!

Dump her.

 

 

2013-02-05 10:46 AM
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mr2tony - 2013-02-05 12:20 AM
Artemis - 2013-02-04 10:32 PM
mehaner - 2013-02-04 11:34 AM
mr2tony - 2013-02-04 10:56 AM
lisac957 - 2013-02-04 9:39 AM
kziemer - 2013-02-04 9:35 AM

The night before, we were up late enjoying time with family and friends. If I had an HIM  the next morning, I would have skipped out on that crucial time with people who came near and far to see us.  As well, there are too many variables, especially for a long course race.

x2 - like in-laws from out of the country who apparently can only make it one weekend of the entire year...

I have a hard time wrapping my head around her parents traveling from a different country (and clearly it's a hassle with their schedule otherwise it would be on a different weekend) and the groom just not being there to help host.

No man or woman should be forced to spend time with his or her in-laws when the other isn't around. That's just a rule of marriage.

I love this rule.  Someone tell my mother-in-law, please?

Absolutely.  Give me her email.  

I used to.  I realized I don't enjoy it.  I don't any more.  I also don't call her to chat.  She gets annoyed, but it's not like my husband calls my mom just to chat.

Hi Artemis! LTNS. Anyway I actually would have no problem hanging out with my FIL. He's a big football guy who played through college and enjoys baseball too so we have lots to talk about. We were in Vegas and hung out for a bit. Swell fella, that guy.

Hey Tony!  Been busy...whole having a kid/trying to work thing really cuts into my free time. 



2013-02-05 12:04 PM
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I didn't read all the responses...

But come on.  It's your wedding.  You should only have one of those, and there are hundreds of races.  Don't obsess with tri SO much that you feel you need to include it, even on the day you get married.

What if you crash your bike?  Kicked in the face on the swim?  Twist an ankle on the run?  Plus, would the soon to be wife be 100% ok with it?  Or would she just "allow/let" you race but still have it be a worry in her head?  Weddings are stressful enough, why add something else to the mix?

I guess I would skip the race and just relax and enjoy the day - there are plenty of races.

2013-02-09 4:12 AM
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I trained real hard for my first IM last year, started base building about a year out. Then I proposed, we picked a date and it happened to be 8 weeks before the race. I basically stopped all training for 3 weeks with our wedding and honeymoon on a beach in Thailand. I did what I could to get back in it after we got back. Given the chance to do it again, I'd do the same thing. Since you asked, i suggest you Skip the race all together and do something in the AM with your groomsmen (golf? Sewing? Whatever you're into) and make the most of the day with the people who matter. Don't be selfish.

Edited by matcrawf 2013-02-09 4:13 AM
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