What would you do? (Page 3)

Keep training!!  The war may yet come to your doorstep!   

And no, I have no idea what a bullpup is....a fishing lure?

I don't have a  problem with the presence of a gun....who cares?  Aaron....you have backed off quite a bit from the idea of opening the door with a gun at the ready position (which by the way in our training is only slightly off target) and ordering a naked screaming woman where to go while you called the Police. 

Like I said, I'm not second guessing anything that actually happens.....but the "here's what I would do" scenarios get kind of goofy.

Here's my take.....if someone is screaming for help....I run toward them to help them.  I suppose one day I could run right into some kind of trap if the sun and moon and stars all lined up on Pluto.  Until then, I'm not living my life like someone who is crying for help really wants to hurt me. 

All this gun talk has scared Tony away from the thread--you know how he hates guns--and I'm still waiting for an answer to my sex addicts question.

Tony, Aaron will put his bullpup away, will you come answer my harmless, not scary, non-threatening, little question?

I mean I was pointing it at you, in the ready position, but I won't hurt you--promise.

Haha Tony is busy polishing his scary assault shotgun in case someone comes to his door and tries to sell him some Yummy Meats. 

Hold the phone...

Tony doesn't like Yummy Meat?

No, he just doesn't like the way they threaten you with a good deal. 

All this gun talk has scared Tony away from the thread--you know how he hates guns--and I'm still waiting for an answer to my sex addicts question.

Tony, Aaron will put his bullpup away, will you come answer my harmless, not scary, non-threatening, little question?

I mean I was pointing it at you, in the ready position, but I won't hurt you--promise.

All this gun talk has scared Tony away from the thread--you know how he hates guns--and I'm still waiting for an answer to my sex addicts question.

Tony, Aaron will put his bullpup away, will you come answer my harmless, not scary, non-threatening, little question?

I mean I was pointing it at you, in the ready position, but I won't hurt you--promise.

lol, you guys are making me laugh.  Sorry, I had a big proposal due this morning so I actually had to do work.  Then in meetings all afternoon. 

OK, so as LB mentioned Sex Addict probably isn't the best term to describe this guy.  I was actually using it as a somewhat polite description of him versus saying what I really thought he was.

Now for the question of how do I define a Sex Addict?
It is a very broad term used to describe many things.  As was mentioned earlier by someone it's not recognized as a mental illness yet.  However, there's no question that it is a real problem.

I typically describe sex addiction as a sexual behavior that is damaging to the individual or someone else (often their family).  This is usually where I'm working with guys.  Their behavior has gotten to the point where it's destroying their life and their family.

As was mentioned, a lot of "Sex Addict" type behavior is pretty much "normal" behavior for 95% of men in the world because men are sexually attracted to women.   However, this natural desire gets short circuited in many people in all sorts of weird ways that I could spend all day describing.  When these deviations become compulsive and addictive in nature is when they start turning into addictive behavior.

For example, if a guy is looking at girlie magazines and decides he wants to um (how can I say this) "polish the flagpole".  There's nothing wrong with that, and every guy in this thread has done that.  However, if a guy does this 6 times a day every day and cannot function unless he's doing it this much.  OK, now this exact same behavior that is normal and healthy has become addictive and harmful.  I guess you could say it's analogous to an alcoholic.  If I drink one beer a week it's no big deal, but if I drink 6 beers a day and can't stop I might have some issues.

I could probably write 10 pages on this topic, but I guess I'll leave it at that.  I've worked with upwards of 100 men who have struggled with sexual addictions and the vast majority of them were in situations where their behavior was destroying their lives.  Official disease or not, it's very real.

All this gun talk has scared Tony away from the thread--you know how he hates guns--and I'm still waiting for an answer to my sex addicts question.

Tony, Aaron will put his bullpup away, will you come answer my harmless, not scary, non-threatening, little question?

I mean I was pointing it at you, in the ready position, but I won't hurt you--promise.

lol, you guys are making me laugh.  Sorry, I had a big proposal due this morning so I actually had to do work.  Then in meetings all afternoon. 

OK, so as LB mentioned Sex Addict probably isn't the best term to describe this guy.  I was actually using it as a somewhat polite description of him versus saying what I really thought he was.

Now for the question of how do I define a Sex Addict?
It is a very broad term used to describe many things.  As was mentioned earlier by someone it's not recognized as a mental illness yet.  However, there's no question that it is a real problem.

I typically describe sex addiction as a sexual behavior that is damaging to the individual or someone else (often their family).  This is usually where I'm working with guys.  Their behavior has gotten to the point where it's destroying their life and their family.

As was mentioned, a lot of "Sex Addict" type behavior is pretty much "normal" behavior for 95% of men in the world because men are sexually attracted to women.   However, this natural desire gets short circuited in many people in all sorts of weird ways that I could spend all day describing.  When these deviations become compulsive and addictive in nature is when they start turning into addictive behavior.

For example, if a guy is looking at girlie magazines and decides he wants to um (how can I say this) "polish the flagpole".  There's nothing wrong with that, and every guy in this thread has done that.  However, if a guy does this 6 times a day every day and cannot function unless he's doing it this much.  OK, now this exact same behavior that is normal and healthy has become addictive and harmful.  I guess you could say it's analogous to an alcoholic.  If I drink one beer a week it's no big deal, but if I drink 6 beers a day and can't stop I might have some issues.

I could probably write 10 pages on this topic, but I guess I'll leave it at that.  I've worked with upwards of 100 men who have struggled with sexual addictions and the vast majority of them were in situations where their behavior was destroying their lives.  Official disease or not, it's very real.

I don't know when or where it'll happen.......but I can't wait for the day when I get to yell......"LOOK OUT!!!  HE'S GOT A BULLPUP AND HE'S POLISHING HIS FLAGPOLE!!!" 

Right?

I have to admit,  Tony, of all the euphemisms you could have picked, this one really makes me giggle.

Tony, um, can you say masturbate? 

lol, I can.  However, you have to be aware of the male psyche.  When you say that word, every man within a 50 yard radius looks at the floor and immediately changes the subject. 

Right?

I have to admit,  Tony, of all the euphemisms you could have picked, this one really makes me giggle.

Tony, um, can you say masturbate?