One part of your personality you wish you could change.

I can be way too overly focused and task oriented which makes me inflexible.  At work once I have my day planned, it's very difficult for me to leave a project for something else that comes up last minute.  I HATE the feeling of not finishing something I started.  I HATE being interrupted when I'm in the middle of something in depth.

Thank goodness I'm married to a guy who is Mr. Flexible.  He is so open to changing things up last minute.  Not me....if I make plans, the plans are MADE.  Change them?  What?  Why?  Do I have to??

Haha, yeah if it was "appropriate" that might be OK:)

Sadly, nothing appropriate about it. Ugly.

Oh gosh I could go on and on with this one.

I have people who I harbor bad feelings about. Not that I wish bad things would happen to them but I avoid them at all costs. I guess that would qualify as not forgiving. One of them is my neighbor with her stupid dogs that caused us so much trouble and then when we expressed concern for our safety (since they had tried to bite all of us in our own yard) she wrote us a letter and blamed the dogs behavior on my kids who were only 2 & 4 at the time. Yeah, I don't have much need for her - forgiveness or not. Maybe I would be a better person if I could forgive and forget but, well, I'm not. That is not my biggest issue though.

I would change my short temper and lack of patience with others during my lady time. It is by far the biggest frustration to me. The rest of the month I am cool as a cucumber but when that time comes around things that never bother me just build and build until - look out, here it comes! And I am always disappointed in myself. Vicious cycle.

It's called obsessesive/compulsive.

Me? Where do I start....

Oh no, the OCD is not one of the traits I would change 

BTW I'm apparently having issues receiving PM's in the event you PM'd me back last week.  Don't think I'm being a snob!

There's more than one thing I would change - or maybe that I should start to work on?

The biggest, I think, is that I don't make or keep friends all that easily.  I don't put enough effort into making sure I'm in contact with people because I get wrapped up in my own life (i.e. training) and tend to forget that a friendship is a two-way thing.  I'm also really good at being alone, which makes it doubly difficult. 

I'm also REALLY gullible and naive - you could tell me that Matt Damon is secretly a government mole from Thailand who can't eat onions due to his religion and it's quite possible that I would believe you. 

Hey, that's classified information!

Really?  Good to know, I don't need to try and look it up now! 

Hahahahaha! 

On the couch, on the floor... 

We have a lot in common. I would PM you.... but what's the point?

Hey, I told you that onion thing, Monica! Hahahahaha.

I am wary of everyone all the time.

I am an extrovert once I get to know you. But it will take some work on your end to get to know me first. They call this a "non initiating extrovert". I generally stay away from new people... especially in a one on one setting. I will sit alone and be lonely before I approach someone new... one on one.

In a group, it's a bit different, especially if it's in a group where I know some of the people and others are new.

Several people have told me they thought I was a "B" when they first met me... but I'm not a "B" at all. Really.

So I guess I wish I could be better at initiating conversations with strangers or potential friends.

I know!!  I should have given you credit for that.  I'm also terribly UNcreative in every way.  I can't draw to save my life, other than stick figures, I got kicked out of band in grade 6 and I was told to hum in the choir.  Can I blame my parents for the lack of creative genes? 

We're very much the same... a non initiating extrovert - I like it!  And it fits me to a T.  I get all nervous and feel awkward with new people, especially in a one-on-one setting.  I guess in a group I feel like there are a lot more buffers or places to hide? 

I have had several people tell me just that... "When I first met you I thought you were a ((and I quote one in particular)) A cold hearted btich!" A COLD HEARTED BTICH!!!!!

That just seems so... terrible!

I will admit that the people I am friends with now... through my old gym, used to scare the heck out of me so I avoided them at all costs... they had their own clique... they had their own jokes and nicknames and whatnot... and I was an outsider... all it took was one of them to draw me in... and I was in. But... I never ever made an effort to break in on my own. Or to reach out to any of those people... who are now my very close friends.