Why would a girl...

b*tches be crazy.

let me guess...she's....23?

ding, ding, ding, ding.

Bwahahahaha.

And Z2A, you're never gonna call her again. 

Because there's no point.

Next!

winner winner chicken dinner

What does everyone think about a woman who wants to marry you, but she also wants to keep her last name?  Apparently it's not unheard of (here in the South it's not common at all), but I'm not sure how I feel about it.  

May I ask what was you're reason for deciding to keep yours?  I'm curious, since I live in a region where girls can't wait to change their last name, status, etc. on facebook when they get married.

I grew up in a family with different last names.  I didn't like it as a kid. 70s and 80s midwest families had a hard time understanding what was going on.  When I married my husband, I knew I wanted us to have the same last name, though, to his credit, he offered to take mine.

In the community I live in now, it's very common for the parents to have different last names and the kids to take one or the other or some hyphenated (or other amalgam of the two) version.

ETA: There are two primary reasons women tend to keep their names here--professional (PhDs and MDs like to retain their maiden names for publishing reasons) and personal/political/feminist reasons.

That's the main reason for her wanting keep hers.  She's in the medical field and has journals published, so she doesn't want to feel like she has to start over again.  I understand and respect that.  

I'll admit that my pause comes from feeling like it defies a tradition that only exists for the sake of the tradition today.  Part of me growing, I suppose.

And it starts... It only gets worse from here, you have begun your journey down the road to leads to marriage or breakup, at least she was thoughtful enough to give you a specific timeline. 

And as to why a girl would say one thing at the beginning and then another later... If you choose the marriage route you better get used to that!

I have a girlfriend who was in a serious relationship with a guy whose last name was Bean. She flat out told him she would never change her last name to Bean and it was a big reason they split up. She used the excuse that she was a Realtor and had an established brand with her name, which was partially true. But fast forward to today and she is married with a new last name - and still a Realtor with a strong brand. She used both last names for about a year then dropped her maiden name. Interesting how her stance changed when she met the right guy.

Personally I would change my last name in a heartbeat. My last name isn't crucial to my personal brand or occupation, and I like the "family" perspective of having the same last names as one unit. To each their own, I have no issues with whatever others do though.

Personally, I would not like it if my future wive said she did not want to take my last name. That kind of hurts the two becoming on thing IMO.

It was never even discussed with us that I remember, and me taking her last name was never even thought about.

Sometimes it's fun to change positions