Bikini-how old is too old? (Page 3)

SuzanneS,

What a great smile!  Wear what you want. 

Ok- tell me, is this a go or a no go for a pool party this weekend? And you won't hurt my feelings, if you say no go, really.  I do *not* want to be "that girl" that's wearing something she shouldn't...

Sue, wear the swimsuit!  You are a very attractive young lady and you look good in it.  Don't worry about what "others might think".  Most "normal" people will think that you look great in it.  There is bound to be someone though, who thinks that you are too old or too fat or too pale or too something to wear a bikini or a dress or a wetsuit.  So what?  The problem lies withing that person's head ... some (heads) are not screwed on right you know ... not with you! 

Thanks everyone. I hope I have the courage to wear it. I know I've got to get over the "fat" feeling eventually. It's such a struggle when you see so many women with perfectly flat abs. Makes girls feel like they have to look like that, you know?

I think I will be sure to take a cute tank top and shorts that I can don if I start to feel too self conscious. Of course, the liquid courage will be there.  That will most definitely help, LOL!

You look fantastic.  Wear it if you want.... I am a late comer to this thread.  I couldn't bring myself to open it in fear of that horrible pic that someone keeps posting.  But here I am.  I know those feelings.  I bought my first bikini last year, just for me.  It drove my ex crazy that I did and I wore it at the pool when he wasn't there, but you know what, I did it for me.  No one hit on me because of it, no one looked at me funny and no one even cared!!!  It is all in your own head. 

You are gorgeous.

Man Hater! 

I find it sad that being modest is such a horrible thing.  Being LDS (Mormon) we believe in modesty for both men and woman.

But we also believe everyone has a right to their own opinions and their own ways of life. 

 I hope you wear it, Suzanne--you look damn good AND happy. Nothing more attractive than that.

Also, I'll bet at least some of women with the perfectly flat abs still see someone else when they look in the mirror, too. But you'd never know it from looking at them, you know?

And the shorts/tanktop idea is good, too--that way you have a Plan B, which can help you relax.

Being modest in and of itself is not a horrible thing.  Being mandated to it or told "this is how you must do it" is.

FWIW - I think generally young kids (especially young girls) are being raised to show WAY too much skin too young.  I don't want to think prostitute when I see a pre-teen girl walking in the mall.  So maybe my mindset is not How Old is Too Old, but How Young is Too Young.

I personally think that kids should be raised to dress modestly, and once they are old enough to understand what kind of messages they are sending by what they are wearing, let them have at it.  Whether we like it or not, we DO send a message to others based on the way we dress.

Ok, hijack off...

Suzanne, if it were me I'd go get a sarong or one of those really big wraparound scarf things, and wear it around your hips if you feel uncomfortable.  Otherwise, as long as you are enjoying yourself go for it.