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2007-09-12 10:49 AM

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Subject: No one ever calls me - WWCOJD?

Seriously.  I don't know why I even have a phone, except to call people on it.  No one ever calls me on it.  Well, that's not exactly true.  There are two people who call me: my MIL and my ex.  Yeah. 

My parents never call me.  I wind up calling them whenever I want to talk with them.

My friends never call me.  Some will email me, but even that's pretty random, unless you count joke email forwards.

My extended family never calls me.  Whenever I call them, they say "how nice it is to talk to you."  Yeah.  I agree.  My phone's ringer works too, believe it or not.  I know.  I had it tested.

 

I know it sounds like I'm making a joke about it, but it's really upsetting to me.  I did a test in the month of August, I stopped calling or emailing others (family and friends) to see who called/emailed me (other than E and a few close friends): one friend emailed and then called to set up a lunch.  And my "nephew" emailed me.

Yep.  That's it.  

I'm very sad.  I already feel left out of family stuff since they're all in Louisiana and I'm out here in California.  Now I feel like I've been completely forgotten.   



2007-09-12 10:56 AM
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You're not forgotten, you have all of us here!  WHat's the phone number?  We'll call you

 

I know what you mean, though.  I have family that never calls, and then when I do call them they say..."I never hear from you.  You never call."...Ummmmm....'scuse me?!

2007-09-12 10:57 AM
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Could be worse.
2007-09-12 10:57 AM
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Hey don't feel bad. They probably just think that since you're away from them then you have your own thing going on and they don't want to bother you or interrupt. Nobody calls me either. Mostly because when they do I don't answer. I hate talking on the phone.
2007-09-12 11:16 AM
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madkat - 2007-09-12 11:49 AM

Seriously.  I don't know why I even have a phone, except to call people on it.  No one ever calls me on it.  Well, that's not exactly true.  There are two people who call me: my MIL and my ex.  Yeah. 

My parents never call me.  I wind up calling them whenever I want to talk with them.

My friends never call me.  Some will email me, but even that's pretty random, unless you count joke email forwards.

My extended family never calls me.  Whenever I call them, they say "how nice it is to talk to you."  Yeah.  I agree.  My phone's ringer works too, believe it or not.  I know.  I had it tested.

 

I know it sounds like I'm making a joke about it, but it's really upsetting to me.  I did a test in the month of August, I stopped calling or emailing others (family and friends) to see who called/emailed me (other than E and a few close friends): one friend emailed and then called to set up a lunch.  And my "nephew" emailed me.

Yep.  That's it.  

I'm very sad.  I already feel left out of family stuff since they're all in Louisiana and I'm out here in California.  Now I feel like I've been completely forgotten.   


No one ever calls me either. The vast majority of my friends do not call me. My family doesn't call me, but that's not so bad actually. My mom used to call and email ALL the time when I first went away to college in 1999 - she finally let up a little around junior year. The last several years, I'm just busy, so she knows not to call unless it's important.
2007-09-12 11:31 AM
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List your phone number in this thread.  We BTers will make sure to call early, call late, and call often.   



2007-09-12 1:34 PM
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2007-09-12 1:55 PM
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Thanks guys.  I think.

I know I probably sound like a whiner, and yeah, it could be much worse -- remember my MIL calls me all the time.  

I just get tired of being the only one to initiate conversations.  I feel like an after thought and that's kinda sad.  I can see how my cousins might be busy with their own lives and all that.  But my own parents can't even call me?  *sigh*

Maybe it's just a function of modern life.  Maybe people just don't contact each other anymore.  

That'd be sad, if it's true. 

2007-09-12 2:07 PM
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I have two words for you, MadKat. You may think I'm joking but I'm not.
Here they are: Ballroom Dancing.
It will change your life.
2007-09-12 2:12 PM
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Stop worrying about stuff.  Your family all said they like talking to you.   So call and talk to them.  Who cares who initiates the conversation.   Someone has to.   If they were the ones to always call you first, would I mean you like them less?   Life is too short to worry about this kind of stuff and play games to see who loves who more.    Also, you could just tell your parents it would be nice for them to call more.   I am sure they would.   People don't know what is wrong unless you tell them.  

 

 

2007-09-12 2:24 PM
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Dancing Fool - 2007-09-12 2:07 PM I have two words for you, MadKat. You may think I'm joking but I'm not. Here they are: Ballroom Dancing. It will change your life.

Hahahahahahahaahahaha!

Oh, you were serious. Embarassed



2007-09-12 2:28 PM
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Dancing Fool - 2007-09-12 2:07 PM I have two words for you, MadKat. You may think I'm joking but I'm not. Here they are: Ballroom Dancing. It will change your life.

Hahahahahahahaahahaha!

Oh, you were serious. Embarassed




That does it! I'm going to have to slap you with my gloves! Just give me a moment to straighten my tutu.
2007-09-12 2:30 PM
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the bear - 2007-09-12 1:24 PM

Dancing Fool - 2007-09-12 2:07 PM I have two words for you, MadKat. You may think I'm joking but I'm not. Here they are: Ballroom Dancing. It will change your life.

Hahahahahahahaahahaha!

Oh, you were serious. Embarassed

So much for not reading WWCOJD threads.

2007-09-12 2:34 PM
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No one ever calls me either, and I even have to call home to have my parents wish me a happy birthday. The only time that my parents would call me is if there was bad news in the family.

I wouldn't fret it. I look at it as less time I'm on the phone, the more time I spend training.
2007-09-12 2:35 PM
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tupuppy - 2007-09-12 2:30 PM
the bear - 2007-09-12 1:24 PM

Dancing Fool - 2007-09-12 2:07 PM I have two words for you, MadKat. You may think I'm joking but I'm not. Here they are: Ballroom Dancing. It will change your life.

Hahahahahahahaahahaha!

Oh, you were serious. Embarassed

So much for not reading WWCOJD threads.

I don't as a rule, just that I have my gaydar Control Panel set for mentions of "Ballroom Dancing." Not that there's anything wrong with that.

2007-09-12 2:36 PM
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nighthawk - 2007-09-12 2:34 PM  I wouldn't fret it. I look at it as less time I'm on the phone, the more time I spend training.

So, your tele-sex bill must be outrageous?



2007-09-12 2:53 PM
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Madkat, you need better friends. Seriously.    Ferget the caller/callee ratio for a while and make it your business to go out there and build some new friendships.  That may mean initiating a lot for a while.   Meet people.  Initiate.  Call.  Get together.  Do fun stuff.  Have them over to your house.  Ask how their day was and care what the answer is.  Do little things to let them know you're thinking of them.  And yeah, if it sounds like wooing a new lover, friendship can be a little bit like that sometime. 

At some point, you'll find people you care about who also care about you.  Maybe some of your current friends, maybe new ones.  Tell them you appreciate it when they call.  No more "testing" people.  Whether you do that one-on-one or with The World In General, no good can come of that.

I don't know if that's what COJWD, but that's what CSWD.

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