Kids school question

"If I have a problem with that, I should find a new school. "

Sounds like great advice to me.

Ohhhh NOOOOOO!  You are paying them for service and they need to treat you with respect.  further no child should be singled out in class.  You go back and get in these women's face and demand that they move your daughter 's seat and if you hear them singling out your daugter ago - you will be right back in their face.... She is there toreceive the education that YOU are PAYING them for .... I think I would have slapped that smirk right off the teachers face. 

touchy spot today for me....

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First off, find your set and reattach them becuase there is a LOT you can do.  As mentioned they are providing a service that you are paying a lot for.  Stand up to them and make it clear you won't be bullied.  If that doesn't work you can use the line, "You really don't want my wife to come in and start screaming do you?"

Go higher up the food chain.  Try the overall superintendant of the city's school department.  And yes, I'd change schools.  With that attitude, your daughter is in for a long stint with this teacher, and who knows what additional retribution she might decide to come down with.

They must have a long waiting list of parents trying to get their kids into that school. Can't imagine why else they would put so little value on the parent-teacher relationship.

Find another school, post haste. I have 3 sisters who are in the education field - they would attest that that kind of behavior from educators is UNACCEPTABLE.

If you're not yet ready to pull your daughter out - contact the Board members. That's what my sister does when she doesn't get satisfaction from her son's school.

Right now your daughter is in the losing position (as well as you, though indirectly). No matter what happens, she is not going to be treated fairly, unless the staff there has a very big and selfless heart (which your testimony here would indicate otherwise).

Public schools will take children at any time. Take your $10K and go elsewhere. And also I'd start writing letters to the editors of the local papers (AFTER your daughter is out of the school).

BTW, Montessori is an awesome option for your child!

After you take her out, start a blog about the school and email the link to the teacher. Make sure you use her name in your blog! Tell her you're going to make her and her school famous.

Sounds like you might have better luck with public school. 

Seriously, this is just like any other business relationship.  You are paying for a service and you are not receiving it to your satisfaction.  Demand satisfaction or take your business elsewhere.  You have a 5 year old at $10k a year.   So by the time the kid gets through 6th Grade, that is 70K in revenue they will be losing.   If they don't want to trade a nice education for $70k, i bet you can find a good school that will. 

I don't have kids, so take this with a grain of salt.

I'd go ahead and find another school. The fact that they acted like this shows how they will act in future situations. And, if you manage to get your way and get her moved, she will always have a stigma attached to her with that teacher. Because you would have won and the teacher lost. That is too much for a 5 year old to deal with.

Just reading about the situation makes me think they could never go back to how they treated her before this happens. Sometimes, even if you apologize for acting like a jerk (which they clearly were) you can't take back the action. The memory is there even if the malice is gone.

Move her. Move her soon. Just my $.02.

My advice is to stop emailing.  Pick up the phone and call the teacher directly.  Better yet, arrange to pick your daughter up from school and pull the teacher aside.

Emails have taken on a passive role and can denote either a passing interest or a sense of superiority in that you, Ms. teacher, aren't important enough for a phone call.

If you are looking for a written record, follow-up with a confirmatory email.  I'm afraid you may have set the wrong tone starting off by using email - or at the very least created a situation where the wrong tone was misconstrued by your email and you never realized it.

We had a problem with a teacher last year at my son's Montessori school and we resolved the issue by my wife sitting down first with the Head of the school to explain our concerns, then with the teacher.  All told, our position was simply that we pay tuition and have a vested interest in not only the success of our child, but that of our son's classmates.  We weren't asking for extreme measures, but a reasonable solution to works for everybody.

As a sidenote : in the end the teacher escelated the problem, but since we had the head of the school involved from the beginning (read: before the teacher) - the teacher was not invited back this year.

We've since come to learn that many other parents had the some concerns and we were the only ones that said anything.

So it may be worth your time to talk to some of your daughter's classmates - should you decide to keep her in the school.  But at this point - it sounds like you either need to "go to the mattresses" which puts your daughter in the middle or find a better situation (just be leary the current situation making it difficult to get your daughter into another program - if they get vindictive, you could find yourself "blacklisted." - I know it sounds strange, but I've found this whole world of private schools a black hole of idiots and egos)

Definitely find a new school, take your money somewhere else!  Private schools can be great but they are also not regulated like public schools are.

I know it requires time off from work, but you have every right to spend the day (or several days) in the classroom observing your child as well as the teacher.  If they don't allow you to do that, report them to the Board immediately!

If your daughter's teacher had a problem with her, why hadn't you gotten any phone calls prior to your request for a meeting?  Just food for thought...sorry if I have repeated advice that others have already suggested. 

~Terri (middle school teacher)