Doing it alone (Page 2)

tmwelshy - 2005-01-30 4:08 AM

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tmwelshy - 2005-01-29 5:02 PM
Good luck, and for all you leopard-like athenas on this thread call 1800 Twelshy and I will counsel you on a one-on-one basis....

Huh...I just called 1800 Twelshy, and it was a Viagra Help Line! Sorry to hear that Thomas!!

daaayum....good thing I wasn't going to call that number anyhow

You so want me, Ellen.

Hahahahahahahahahahaha!!!
(Too bad I'm gonna be away  & won't be able to read the rest of this one! )

Another one here.  My FW Lynn runs, but we're at two different paces - almost ALL of my training is done alone.  All of my weight training and running is fairly solitary, although Lynn will occasionally swim with me, and I have a few friends to bike with.  On the plus side, if I want to run hills, add some intervals, go farther or faster (or slower!), I can choose what I want to do.

It also gives me plenty of time with my thoughts, or to pray, or whatever.  Lately, I've been trying to figure out how to start my own tri store!

On the down side: not having someone at the finish line is a bit of a downer.  On the course, I'm just out there for me.  Fortunately, some other CO BTers have been at my races (Thanks Cathy!) to take pix, or to hang with after the race (Thanks Kim, Mary, Ovetta, Stacy, Jeff and Chris!) but I sometimes feel like I'm stealing everyone else's spotlight...

coredump - 2005-01-31 8:52 AM  So, I'm back in the train alone, and come home alone camp. Thanks for listening to my story. A lot of my friends and family don't really get why I won't give up training, but I figure others here might relate to that a bit better. -Chris

Sorry to hear about all that, but you really only need your BT-CO friends!

Joe,

You're not "stealing others spolight." I love seeing you and other BTers at my races. It makes me feel like I've found my family.

I am probably the most vocal single person on this forum! :0 But I train alone because I LOVE BEING ALONE. I'm an extreme extrovert so people are drawn to me. That's great. I thank the Lord for that gift of making people feel good and wanting to be around me. But the downside is that people demand a lot of my time. If I told you all the things I did outside of B.T. com you would collapse! Add about 30-40 hours of training per week and man I get worn out. So I love going to the gym alone. I love working out alone. I love biking, swimming and running alone, because it's literally the only time I get to be alone.

 I've recently started dating a guy and he was really busy so we only saw each other every three weeks or so. At first I resented that because we hardly ever talked and it felt like he was parachuting into my life every three weeks and then disappearing. But lately he's been coming around more often and quite frankly it's just not working. I have too many things to do and he wanted  me do the unthinkable - miss a workout. And when I wouldn't do it he just got a little angry and PO'd that we hadn't seen each other in a while and instead of spending time with him I wanted to go run. This was just before I was to leave out of town for a business trip. So I ended up stroking his ego and missing a workout and I regretted not running more than I felt happy for seeing him. So he's probably going to have to go.

I like training alone. Most of you know I dated an elite athlete and though we talk about our training alot I NEVER WANT TO GO RUN/BIKE/SWIM with him. He's too far advanced for me and I'd hate to slow him down. It would just complicate things too much. I like that he likes to run 100-mile races and he loves that I love 5k's. We support each other but I wouldn't want to train with him. Rather than have someone out there doing it with me, I just want someone who supports in my quest to do this sport. And I get that from my parents, friends, family and you B.Ters. And if one day a man decides to do the same then awesome. Otherwise I'll keep doing my thing and if someone wants to come along all the more better but it's not worse if they don't!

I, too, am part of the single camp...recently separated, heading toward D-land.  There have been a number of posts that hit the issue right on the head...what does it take for you to be happy - at your core?  Do you as a person need the reinforcement, self-esteem boost, companionship externally or internally?  And does it need to be all the time, once in a while, or not much at all?  All tough questions...

And I think no matter what side of the equation (alone, with a SO, or with friends) - there will be times when whatever your situation, the grass looks greener..  When I was married, there were days that I'd run with my wife and **WISH** I was alone - or in a different group.  Similarly, as I was traveling quite a bit, there were days I was running in other cities where I longed for the familiar, the companionship of people I knew.  Just like no one ever eats the exact same meal every day...different foods, different venues, different company...based on what you need at that point.

I empathize completely with your situation...My biggest hope is that you can know yourself well enough (that's not easy, takes a lot of time) to understand how you feel and why...and what you need in the long haul.  I personally am still on that journey as a recently-separated hottie-stud-guy, but get more comfortable with myself day after day - with Tri as part of the equation...