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2005-08-25 3:13 PM

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Subject: Things i DONT miss about relationships (for Lee &others)

...ok, I'll start. I have some baggage too.

-nagging
-someone youre stuck with and you shouldn't be with in the first place
-TELLING YOU NOT TO SPEND $ on sports/tri gear and they don't understand because they sit on their fat ass all day



2005-08-25 3:17 PM
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2005-08-25 3:21 PM
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Someone telling me I go to the gym too much.

Someone who sleeps while you're running your first 1/2 marathon.  And then when you finish he doesn't want to stick around because he says everyone stinks and continues to complain about it.

Someone who want you to tailgate at a GA game (sorry GA fans- I like going to the games but don't when I already have race plans ) instead of running in a race that you promised your friends you'd run in LONG before the tail gating plans were ever arranged.

Someone who doesn't understand they when you say you're tired and just want to stay in for the night becuase you are so exhausted from training.

Someone who doesn't understand why you have to sped close to $100 for a pair of running shoes when you can buy some at Wal-Mart MUCH cheaper.

Someone who says they hate to run.

Someone who thinks my legs are too big- umm, it called muscle, and muscle= power= speed!

Someone who doesn't like an active, athletic girl.

someone who doesn't admire or respect my indepence.

I hope I don't sound bitter.  All this just reiterates the fact that I need a tri guy!

2005-08-25 3:22 PM
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Subject: RE: Things i DONT miss about relationships (for Lee &others)
might get some flack for this but here goes anyways.

1. I LIKE MY MONEY!!!! Not having to spend it on everything is nice right now.
2. I'm very Picky, when it comes to women, should I be, No, but I am. It takes one small thing that irritates me and you're gone.
3. I don't have the time. (Right Now) Relationships take time.
4. Not getting yelled at all the time cause you're not home.
5. Hanging with my friends. Never could do it while in the last relationship.






Edited by Mark6715 2005-08-25 3:27 PM
2005-08-25 3:22 PM
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Subject: RE: Things i DONT miss about relationships (for Lee &others)

I'm in a great relationship now, but it seems I'm still carrying a bit of baggage from my last one:

- feeling like you're walking on eggshells because the tension level is so high
- arguing over who did the damn dishes last
- actually, arguing over any damn thing, because it's not about the thing, it's about the power struggle, and there shouldn't be a damn power struggle in a loving, mutually respecting relationship
- certifiably insane in-laws
- feeling like you need to justify every little thing
- someone cutting down your ambitions and dream to fit in their small world
- having to worry about their whereabouts and fidelity
- having to prop up someone else's fragile ego
- it seems I could go on and on and on...

2005-08-25 3:31 PM
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ahhh this is good stuff

-the middle of the day for no reason phone call(this was cute early on)
-jealousy
-watching her get drunk...often
-waking up without covers
-lack of independence
-clinginess
-having to check in
-not doing what you want b/c you are doing what they want


2005-08-25 3:35 PM
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gsulee - 2005-08-25 4:31 PM ahhh this is good stuff

-waking up without covers

LOL!!! Who doesn't do this?!

2005-08-25 4:02 PM
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2005-08-25 4:12 PM
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- 2005-08-25 5:02 PM

hijack..

love the new pic TC..

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at least you know how to spell hijack

2005-08-25 4:13 PM
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- having to clear all my plans through her

- having plans foisted on me at the last minute

- not being able to eat what i wanted because she was such a picky eater and wouldn't eat most of what i cooked

- not having to hang around watching all her friends get stoned/drunk

- having to deal with her extra baggage from previous guys and her refusing to try to deal with any of it

- wondering where my money went

- the phone call from paris telling me she wouldn't be coming home... 

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wow, i sound bitter.  i'm not really.  it's been several years since most of that, and we've both grown up/moved on and are able to be friendly now.  i don't hold a grudge anymore, but i must admit it fueled a lot of time in the gym/training at first. 

-C
2005-08-25 4:16 PM
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1. making stupid life & financial decisions that I wouldn't have made otherwise, to accommodate the guy

2. trying to be less of who I am so I'm a better "fit" for the guy; it feels like I'm squeezing myself into a little cube or cutting off limbs just to be something he can comprehend

3. taking better care of the guy than I do of myself, paying for it by...

4. going stark raving mad after too much of #2 & #3

5. watching guy who once swore to the moon and back that, due to my surpassing wonderfulness, nothing I did could ever make him leave me, leave (bleeding, battered, scarred for life) after witnessing #4.

This is actually a bona fide pattern for me now, which is why I no longer date. My dating license has been revoked.


2005-08-25 4:50 PM
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Heh. Yeah, I can play at this game.

  • No football watching. Ever.
  • Being yelled at for being 4 minutes late to pick her up and take her out for her birthday dinner, only to be followed by being yelled at for not parking in the parking spot she told me to.
  • Embarrassing me at a friend's wedding by not going out to the post-rehearsal dinner party after we'd traveled 1,000 miles to see my friends because she was mad at me and wanted to stay in the hotel room. And then ordering a $100 bottle of champagne and putting it on the room.
  • Saying she doesn't like me when I drink (odd because I'm a happy drunk) to be followed by buying me a bottle of champagne for Valentine's Day.
  • Constant comparison to her ex-fiancee.
  • Not being nice enough to my dogs.
  • Listening to complaints about money being tight, and trying to act normal after hearing about a $300 purchase on clothes, of which, half would be returned a week later which turned into $150 savings and thereby turned into needing to spend that plus an additional $150.
  • Paying for a ski vacation in Feb., a five-star resort for new year's, Tiffany's for x-mas (dumbest. move. ever. and never again) and hearing that I haven't done anything nice for her. (BTW - this is my version of save 'n splurge)
  • Did I mention no football watching? Ever?

But what makes it all worthwhile is that I'm completely over her and she can't say the same. So in my best Nelson voice: Haaaa Haaaaaa!

2005-08-25 4:51 PM
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2005-08-25 4:54 PM
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Washing his underwear.
His family.
Squabbling over money.
Routine selatious bits.




2005-08-25 4:56 PM
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2005-08-25 5:01 PM
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Subject: RE: Things i DONT miss about relationships (for Lee &others)
- dreading coming home from work because you know as soon as you walk in the door, no matter what, its all your fault

- being lied to

- being cheated on while youre deployed to iraq

- coming home from said deployment and being asked to watch the kid while she goes out on a 'date'

- realizing that someone actually charges 2500.00 for a vacuum; and you now own one

- being lied to ( i know i mentioned this but i really hate it )

- having friends that are girls and being accused of sleeping with them

- ohh yeah, being lied to


those are just a few off the top of my head



2005-08-25 5:14 PM
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runnergirl28 - 2005-08-25 4:21 PM

Someone who thinks my legs are too big- umm, it called muscle, and muscle= power= speed!

That's my parents  :

My list: 

  • Being insecure coz GF have an advanced degree, and got upset when people asked GF to explain something related to her field. 
  • Got mad when GF didn't understand his conversation subject which was related to HIS field. 
  • Claimmed that GF should allow him to let out his frustration (pulling a long face, not responding to calls, etc) after a "hard day's work" coz GF should be understanding....
  • ....and that GF should be considerate as to not bringing frustration home and let it upon him when GF had a bad day as it's giving him emotional burden
  • Believe that a GF/wife should be "traditional" as to clean the house, do laundry, make dinner etc., while maintaining a career to help out financially, as a morden woman.
  • Went to "consult" another woman when having problem with relationship



Edited by Celeb_ithil 2005-08-25 5:18 PM

2005-08-25 5:25 PM
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  • Believe that a GF/wife should be "traditional" as to clean the house, do laundry, make dinner etc., while maintaining a career to help out financially, as a morden woman.


What is wrong with this???? Just kidding.

2005-08-25 5:28 PM
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jase714 - 2005-08-25 4:01 PM -  having friends that are girls and being accused of sleeping with them - 

That says it all right there!  Why must I be sleeping with all of my friends that are girls!  jealousy is a trait that I do not deal well with!

2005-08-25 5:38 PM
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jase714 - 2005-08-25 5:01 PM

- dreading coming home from work because you know as soon as you walk in the door, no matter what, its all your fault

- being lied to

- being cheated on while youre deployed to iraq

- coming home from said deployment and being asked to watch the kid while she goes out on a 'date'

- realizing that someone actually charges 2500.00 for a vacuum; and you now own one

- being lied to ( i know i mentioned this but i really hate it )

- having friends that are girls and being accused of sleeping with them

- ohh yeah, being lied to


those are just a few off the top of my head



Dude, this is just awful! Deceit is such a horrible, snakey thing. The liar sees the world as liars see the world: ie, "i lie all the time, so no one else is trustworthy either." The cheater ends up being the "jeaolous" one. It's a major character flaw. Sorry you had to deal with that.

And, i have to add, thank you for your service.
When you're good and ready, you'll make an honest woman very happy.
2005-08-25 5:39 PM
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2005-08-25 5:48 PM
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- Having her always leaving her tea bag in the sink instead of just throwing it in the trash.
- Telling her politely that she doesn't have to neatly fold my underwear, but she does anyway.


Uhh, that's all I can think of. Hey I must have it pretty good! 32 years and that's all I can come up with!



2005-08-25 5:49 PM
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SLEEPING ON THE COUCH
NOT WORRYING ABOUT RECIPRICATION, I GIVE AND DON'T GET
WHAT!! IT'S NOT MY FAULT ANYMORE
SAYING YES TO WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO DO AND GETTING QUESTIONED ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU DO.

HEY WAIT A MINUTE I'M STILL MARRIED, IT WAS JUST A DREAM!!!!Aaaagggghhhhhhh
2005-08-25 5:58 PM
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Oh, Colleen, you are too sweet! But... you missed the bit about my license being revoked!

Jase needs find someone honest AND sane. I'm only the former. But keep looking; you may earn your fee off that man yet.
2005-08-25 6:13 PM
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Someone who just won't  let me be me.
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