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 2005-12-01 10:14 AM |
Extreme Veteran  604   Northwest Ohio |  Subject: Technology and DatingI'm a divorcee' still getting used to this whole dating thing---and they didn't have cell phones back before I was married.... Anyway, I had a guy WHO PURSUED ME (that's important in this story) and finally asked me out and I agreed to meet him. (Once again: HE pursued ME, not the other way around) So I am at the meeting place for our date, when my cell phone buzzes and I see that I have a text message from the guy telling me basically that "something suddenly came up".... The thing is---Obviously he had his cell phone and I had a cell phone, so WHY DIDN'T HE JUST CALL ME?? Maybe something really did "suddenly come up" or maybe he just chickened out or whatever---but to break a date via a TEXT MESSAGE??? How lame is that? Am I over-reacting? |
| 2005-12-01 10:16 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Buttercup 14334   | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Definitely lame-o. At least it wasn't a post-it note. He got cold feet. Let it die a natural death. |
| 2005-12-01 10:18 AM in reply to: #296003 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating That would bother me- don't blame you. I have some friends whose primary mode of communication is by TM- yes, a lot of my guy friends TM. I don't get it- because it's easier to call someone rather than text. Tm takes so much time if you ask me. But like I said- I know some poeple think TM-ing is fun and wills spend the time doing it. I think TM is good for quick little messages, but I wouldn't use for anything more than that. If something came up I would defintiely call the person. Maybe the guy didn't want to speak to you and that's why he resorted to TM. Which is extrememly immature IMO. |
| 2005-12-01 10:21 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Extreme Veteran 604 Northwest Ohio | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Yes. He has been voted off the island.  |
| 2005-12-01 10:24 AM in reply to: #296017 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Bettylou - 2005-12-01 11:21 AM Yes. He has been voted off the island. Did you make sure to put out his Tiki torch?? Because that makes it final. |
| 2005-12-01 10:24 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Master 1946  Bronze member | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Betty Lou- yeah- off the island for sure- courtesy hasn' changed....!!! |
| 2005-12-01 10:26 AM in reply to: #296017 |
Buttercup 14334 | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Earlier this year, I tried match.com for a whole month. I was stood-up 3 times! One guy sent me an EMAIL to say he had a terrible headache and wanted to meet me under better circumstances. I read the cancellation email the day after I sat in a Starbucks for 30 minutes waiting for him. I emailed him back that I was taking his headache as a sign that online dating was not for me. I'm waiting for Mr. I'msorightI'llmakeyourtoescurl to land on my head. That's my strategy. |
| 2005-12-01 10:37 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Elite 2673 Muskego, WI | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating OK, I will play Devil's advocate for a couple of seconds on this one. PERHAPS he got stuck in a meeting, could see he was going to be late, and that was the only way he could quickly communicate with you while otherwise stuck in a place he could not talk? Did he subsequently call to explain? ( I assume not, since you are asking this question?) Assuming he did not...I'm likely dead wrong. But I would ask you to remember that OCCASIONALLY things come up beyond our control that make people appear to be idiots. |
| 2005-12-01 10:41 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Elite 2673 Muskego, WI | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Renee...I did not see yours. I was attempting to defend Bettylou's situation. Just so we're clear... Even in your case Renee, the interesting thing is...where's the call or even email a couple of days later saying "hey, I'm really sorry, but that migraine was blah blah blah." ? The guy must have wanted to meed you at some point to arrange the whole thing, right? I mean, if these are the feeble excuses being used to just get out of a date, then I feel for all single folks... |
| 2005-12-01 10:48 AM in reply to: #296042 |
Buttercup 14334 | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating Dan, I hear ya. I figured if the guy wasn't a wuss, he would have CALLED me to say he's terribly, terribly sorry but he can't make it. If it had been me with the headache, I would have shown up with the headache and said "I'm terribly sorry, I have a terrible headache and can't really stay. However, I didn't want to cancel at the last minute because I know that would have looked a bit suspect. Can we reschedule? How does Tuesday look for you?" Contrast Mr. Headache with a guy I briefly dated. We had a dinner date scheduled for Wednesday night. Tuesday he calls and asks me to meet him for coffee Wednesday morning. My alarm goes off - "We're having dinner Wednesday... and you want to meet for coffee that same morning?" I agree to meet him and he tells me IN PERSON that he has to reschedule dinner to the following night. I appreciated that he did it in person, though a phone call would have sufficed. He didn't want me to be suspicious, however, and made a point of rescheduling in person. He didn't want me to have doubts about his interest in me. |
| 2005-12-01 10:49 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Extreme Veteran 604 Northwest Ohio | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating My single friends will sometimes ask me to tell them bad dating stories so that they will appreciate their husbands more! Oh. I could do a whole thread about bad blind dates that I've been on. I generally resist when people try to fix me up with a friend-of-a-friend ("you're single, he's single. You should date." Never mind that we have NOTHING in common). But sometimes I give in and the results can make for some good stories to tell at parties. Morey, you're right. There could have been a legitimate excuse. But this time he was just a weenie. Oh well. The tribe has spoken (ha!) |
| 2005-12-01 11:05 AM in reply to: #296052 |
Pro 4481 Reston | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating your single friends have husbands? regardless, the dude used his text as a cop out and that's just lame. yes there are situations where a text message is a appropriate... and if this were one of those situations when he sent it, he should have followed up with a phone call. (i.e. if he was stuck in a mtg or otherwise). If he flaked, consider yourself lucky that you didnt have to actual waste an evening with him. Bettylou - 2005-12-01 11:49 AMMy single friends will sometimes ask me to tell them bad dating stories so that they will appreciate their husbands more!Oh. I could do a whole thread about bad blind dates that I've been on. I generally resist when people try to fix me up with a friend-of-a-friend ("you're single, he's single. You should date." Never mind that we have NOTHING in common). But sometimes I give in and the results can make for some good stories to tell at parties.Morey, you're right. There could have been a legitimate excuse. But this time he was just a weenie. Oh well. The tribe has spoken (ha!) Edited by 3558 2005-12-01 11:17 AM |
| 2005-12-01 11:09 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Extreme Veteran 604 Northwest Ohio | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating d'oh! Maybe that's why the guy broke the date via text message. I can be ditzy! BTW, the whole text message incident happened about 3 months ago. I'm now dating a really good guy who makes me feel like a princess. I just got to thinking about the text message thing today because ANOTHER guy just e-mailed me and said, "I'm going to be in town this weekend. Call me if you want to get together for dinner." I'm not going to call him. (primarily because of princess guy I mentioned above) But even so, he got my e-mail off of my business card which also had my phone number on it. I guess I'm being old fashioned, but it just seems like if he really wants to go to dinner, he could call me rather than e-mail and ask me to call him! Edited by Bettylou 2005-12-01 11:20 AM |
| 2005-12-01 11:50 AM in reply to: #296067 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating 3558 - 2005-12-01 12:05 PM the dude used his text as a cop out and that's just lame. If you think texting is lame, then why'd you break up with me by sending me a TM??? |
| 2005-12-01 11:54 AM in reply to: #296003 |
Extreme Veteran 563 Allen, TX | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating i'm an in-person kind of guy. i hate the impersonal feeling that one gets from the layers of technology we have at our disposal. my friend james however is a perfect example of the guy you're talking about bettylou. i was present once when he broke up with his ex VIA TEXT MESSAGE. we've talked about how he always uses text messages to relay "difficult" messages (ie, ones he's too big of a pussy to call you about or talk to you in person about). i'm tellin' ya, there are few men left in the world today. don't gimme wrong, there are plenty of males, but few men. |
| 2005-12-01 1:01 PM in reply to: #296126 |
Pro 4481 Reston | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating that was a PM janelle, not a TM. i gave you the opportunity to relay that msg to our BT audience, you just chose not to. runnergirl29 - 2005-12-01 12:50 PM 3558 - 2005-12-01 12:05 PM the dude used his text as a cop out and that's just lame. If you think texting is lame, then why'd you break up with me by sending me a TM??? Edited by 3558 2005-12-01 1:01 PM |
| 2005-12-01 1:10 PM in reply to: #296237 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating 3558 - 2005-12-01 2:01 PM that was a PM janelle, not a TM. i gave you the opportunity to relay that msg to our BT audience, you just chose not to. runnergirl29 - 2005-12-01 12:50 PM 3558 - 2005-12-01 12:05 PM the dude used his text as a cop out and that's just lame. If you think texting is lame, then why'd you break up with me by sending me a TM??? I just want to know why...sniff, sniff...is it because I can't incorporate a cart wheel into the electric slide??? |
| 2005-12-01 2:11 PM in reply to: #296003 |
Champion 7036 Sarasota, FL | Subject: RE: Technology and Dating If the "something" that suddenly came up is: 1. He's in the emergency room with multiple compound fractures and a broken jaw (so he can't talk) after throwing himself in front of a bus to save a little old lady and her dog, then that's probably an acceptable excuse, as long as he apologizes and sends you flowers. 2. He's too busy hitting on the bimbo sitting next to him at the hotel bar, then it's not acceptable . Being a guy and knowing how we normally operate, I sense that, #2 is the more likely scenario. Mark |
 2005-12-01 2:15 PM in reply to: #296003 |
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