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2014-01-03 11:16 AM
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Great work everyone!


2014-01-08 5:26 PM
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I have been on BT for about two years, but didn't know about this thread Just stopping by to say congrats to everyone on there sobriety! You guys rock! I have been sober for about 5 1/2 years...one day at a time


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2014-01-20 9:31 PM
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5 years today.
Went skiing with my kids.
Stoked.
2014-01-20 11:38 PM
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Originally posted by skibummer 5 years today. Went skiing with my kids. Stoked.

Congrats!

2014-01-21 7:37 AM
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Originally posted by skibummer5 years today.Went skiing with my kids.Stoked.
Congrats!
2014-01-21 9:07 AM
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Originally posted by skibummer 5 years today. Went skiing with my kids. Stoked.



2014-01-21 9:09 AM
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Originally posted by skibummer 5 years today. Went skiing with my kids. Stoked.

2014-12-16 10:01 AM
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Bump ... because, well, I needed to. And the holidays. Blech. How's everyone?
2014-12-16 11:07 AM
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Ah yes, the holidays. I'm a little nervous about the holidays due to all the socializing and the fact at I'll be hanging out at my folks' place and christmas always goes hand in hand with drinking (Mimosa on christmas morning, single malt scotch in the evening, lots of great wines with dinner) and this will be my first christmas without alcohol. Further, we've never really had "that conversation" over the 6 months I've been sober. I'm not worried about falling off the wagon as my family keeps me strongly motivated in my sobriety (and overall health), but it does facilitate some awkward situations and the possibility of having to explain myself, which I admittedly have been putting off.
2014-12-16 4:08 PM
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Congrats on 6 months. If I might offer some advice. I know you probably didn't literally mean that you HAD to explain yourself, but... you don't! I simply tell people I don't drink. If they feel it is their business to ask why, I just tell them I was never very good at it. That usually breaks the ice and everyone will move on to the next subject of conversation. Now when it comes to your family.... they already know you weren't any good at it!
2014-12-17 2:48 PM
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Yeah, I certainly haven't been explaining myself for the last six months, just saying "no thanks" and if necessary adding "I'm taking a break from drinking" but, as I'm sure many of you can relate to, I have a reputation as a heavy drinker and my teetotalling has gotten me quite a few raised eyebrows. It's like if the cookie monster swore off cookies, people would be all "what?!"... although I seem to remember hearing that the cookie monster was into vegetables now or something... so maybe it's not that far fetched.


2014-12-17 3:03 PM
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That's one of those questions I wish people would think about before asking, along with "So why'd you go to the doctor?" and "So why haven't you two had kids yet!"

2014-12-17 5:07 PM
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Originally posted by SenatorClayDavis Yeah, I certainly haven't been explaining myself for the last six months, just saying "no thanks" and if necessary adding "I'm taking a break from drinking" but, as I'm sure many of you can relate to, I have a reputation as a heavy drinker and my teetotalling has gotten me quite a few raised eyebrows. It's like if the cookie monster swore off cookies, people would be all "what?!"... although I seem to remember hearing that the cookie monster was into vegetables now or something... so maybe it's not that far fetched.

 

When you're early in sobriety and going to holiday parties, I think it's important to have an Escape Plan.  For real.

 

Make up something before you even get there that if things get too difficult or too edgy for you, you can just invoke it as "oh, crap... blahblahblah, I gotta run.  Great seeing you all!  Be sure to write, don't eat the Fruit Cake."... and get out of there.  I never needed it when I was young in sobriety, but having it in my pocket, so to speak, when I went out was a big mental help.  It was like an extra layer of armor... I knew that if I got uncomfortable, I could just play that card and get out of there and things would end well that day.  

In time, being around that sort of an environment won't be a challenge, in fact, it won't be anything at all, but especially early on you should make efforts to take whatever steps you need to take to protect your sobriety.

 

Congrats to everyone on another day.  I hope your tomorrow is always better than today.

Merry Christmas, y'all.

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