WwCOJD? - Name Change

The "friend" should go back to her maiden name. Leave the kids with their legal name. If when they are older, they decide they want to switch it, let them make that decision.

I thought this was gonna be about something else.  I still vote that you go back to Lara.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom remarried when I was 7, so I grew up having a different last name than her, which never bothered me (with 4 parents, that was the least of our issues).  I changed my name when I got married 4 years ago.  I was not attached to my maiden name as a "family name" (even though I am close to my dad - one of his relatives in the past randomly changed it and that's how we ended up with it) but I still like the name because it's short, easy to spell and sign, and no one ever messes it up.  That's not really the case with my married name.  So.... if we split up, I would definitely go back to my maiden name.

Not knowing any of the parties involved or details, I say she legally change her last name to "Fashizzle."  Just 'cause I think it's funny.

Change it.

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To the OP, i'd say go with one sounds cooler. I don't think matters a great deal, she should do what she feels best about.

When a friend of mine went through her divorce, she changed her name back to her maiden name, even though the kids kept the marital surname.  She did offer her two girls the choice and they chose to keep Daddy's name.  To my knowledge, there haven't been any legal ramifications of being a single mother and having two daughters with a different surname.

I'd never heard of someone doing that before. I can most certainly see your reasoning for doing so.

Proof that the biological father doesn't have to be in your life to turn out to be a super good person. I"m glad to hear your little one's dad is involved, good for you.

Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for brining the typo to my attention, I was trying to say the cooler one between the maiden and married name, was just a suggestion.