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 2010-02-22 4:07 PM in reply to: #2686760 |
Pro  5761     Bartlett, TN |  Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts?As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value. I gotta agree with Tony, I do not clean the house or take the kids out as a gift for the wife. I do that because I want too. I also do stuff around the house because its my house too! I make a mess, I clean up a mess. I see a mess, I usually clean up that mess, it's not done in order to get sex, it's just done. Just my opinion from a 13 year married dude! |
| 2010-02-22 4:09 PM in reply to: #2686762 |
Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:43 PM Cooking dinner is not `buying' a gift. That's doing something nice. But by saying that you cooked dinner, you're implying that she is the one who is usually required to cook dinner, which takes us back to traditional gender roles with the woman in the kitchen and the man not in the kitchen. Actually... Don't get me started on this! I CAN'T STAND being a 50's style husband! I leave the house for the gym at 5:30 and then get to work at 7:45. I usually don't get home until about 6:30pm. By then Amy is responsible for dinner for herself and the kids. I'm on my own for dinner. But I'm the better cook and the whole family loves it when I can find the time to make dinner for everyone during the week. I really don't like that I only get to see my kids for about 90 minutes a day during the week. And yeah, we've fallen into those annoying traditional gender roles. My intention was to simply say that buying gift = doing something nice = effort to make her happy. Word. |
| 2010-02-22 4:12 PM in reply to: #2686502 |
Master 4118 Toronto Bronze member | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? You're also assuming that gifts are not purchased for him. A good many of us pick up things that we think our SO will like (guy or girl). Mine are silly like peanut brittle - I know he loves it so when I see it I buy it for him. And for the record, I got major points for getting him a PS3 for his birthday. |
| 2010-02-22 4:13 PM in reply to: #2686763 |
Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? meherczeg - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:57 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM OK no offense BFD, I don't know you or your lifestyle or family, but these things you're pointing out aren't what I'd consider `doing something nice.' I would say cooking dinner and spending time with her and your daughter are things that you should be doing anyway. Again, no offense, and if that's your idea and your wife's idea of doing something nice, then it sounds like it works. As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value.maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread!  Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't shower my wife with material gifts... can't afford to, nor would she want it. It's the little things that count; a Katz's pastrami on rye sandwhich here, a coupe of loads of laundry there, the surprise babysitter and date-night, the daddysitter and mommies night out, etc, that mean the most. And as for quality time, that's all my family ever does! Too much in fact. That's the reason I'm BIGfuzzydoug and not FAST-SKINNYfuzzydoug. Sacrifice too much training time for family quality time. Perfect example: Yesterday it was 72 and sunny here. First time all year. A perfect day for a long 50-mile training ride. Buuuuuuuuut instead, I did a 6-mile ride with Gracie on her bike and Kyle on his scooter (who would take breaks to ride in the bike trailer.) Kid still managed about 5 miles on a Razr though! Awesome! Hardly a workout especially with a long break at the farm to see the animals, but whaddyagonnado? It's quality time.  goggs, who knew you weren't an altogether bad guy? Yeah Meh, you're not such a bad guy yourself! Edited by mr2tony 2010-02-22 4:15 PM |
| 2010-02-22 4:13 PM in reply to: #2686809 |
Champion 14571 the alamo city, Texas | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? mr2tony - 2010-02-22 5:13 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM Yeah Meh, you're not such a bad guy yourself! mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:57 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM OK no offense BFD, I don't know you or your lifestyle or family, but these things you're pointing out aren't what I'd consider `doing something nice.' I would say cooking dinner and spending time with her and your daughter are things that you should be doing anyway. Again, no offense, and if that's your idea and your wife's idea of doing something nice, then it sounds like it works. As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value.maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread! Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't shower my wife with material gifts... can't afford to, nor would she want it. It's the little things that count; a Katz's pastrami on rye sandwhich here, a coupe of loads of laundry there, the surprise babysitter and date-night, the daddysitter and mommies night out, etc, that mean the most. And as for quality time, that's all my family ever does! Too much in fact. That's the reason I'm BIGfuzzydoug and not FAST-SKINNYfuzzydoug. Sacrifice too much training time for family quality time. Perfect example: Yesterday it was 72 and sunny here. First time all year. A perfect day for a long 50-mile training ride. Buuuuuuuuut instead, I did a 6-mile ride with Gracie on her bike and Kyle on his scooter (who would take breaks to ride in the bike trailer.) Kid still managed about 5 miles on a Razr though! Awesome! Hardly a workout especially with a long break at the farm to see the animals, but whaddyagonnado? It's quality time. goggs, who knew you weren't an altogether bad guy? will you be my valentine ? |
| 2010-02-22 4:15 PM in reply to: #2686812 |
Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? meherczeg - 2010-02-22 4:13 PM mr2tony - 2010-02-22 5:13 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM Yeah Meh, you're not such a bad guy yourself! mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:57 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM OK no offense BFD, I don't know you or your lifestyle or family, but these things you're pointing out aren't what I'd consider `doing something nice.' I would say cooking dinner and spending time with her and your daughter are things that you should be doing anyway. Again, no offense, and if that's your idea and your wife's idea of doing something nice, then it sounds like it works. As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value.maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread! Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't shower my wife with material gifts... can't afford to, nor would she want it. It's the little things that count; a Katz's pastrami on rye sandwhich here, a coupe of loads of laundry there, the surprise babysitter and date-night, the daddysitter and mommies night out, etc, that mean the most. And as for quality time, that's all my family ever does! Too much in fact. That's the reason I'm BIGfuzzydoug and not FAST-SKINNYfuzzydoug. Sacrifice too much training time for family quality time. Perfect example: Yesterday it was 72 and sunny here. First time all year. A perfect day for a long 50-mile training ride. Buuuuuuuuut instead, I did a 6-mile ride with Gracie on her bike and Kyle on his scooter (who would take breaks to ride in the bike trailer.) Kid still managed about 5 miles on a Razr though! Awesome! Hardly a workout especially with a long break at the farm to see the animals, but whaddyagonnado? It's quality time. goggs, who knew you weren't an altogether bad guy? will you be my valentine ? Yes. Yes I will. |
| 2010-02-22 4:15 PM in reply to: #2686812 |
Champion 17756 SoCal | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? meherczeg - 2010-02-22 2:13 PM mr2tony - 2010-02-22 5:13 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM Yeah Meh, you're not such a bad guy yourself! mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:57 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM OK no offense BFD, I don't know you or your lifestyle or family, but these things you're pointing out aren't what I'd consider `doing something nice.' I would say cooking dinner and spending time with her and your daughter are things that you should be doing anyway. Again, no offense, and if that's your idea and your wife's idea of doing something nice, then it sounds like it works. As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value.maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread! Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't shower my wife with material gifts... can't afford to, nor would she want it. It's the little things that count; a Katz's pastrami on rye sandwhich here, a coupe of loads of laundry there, the surprise babysitter and date-night, the daddysitter and mommies night out, etc, that mean the most. And as for quality time, that's all my family ever does! Too much in fact. That's the reason I'm BIGfuzzydoug and not FAST-SKINNYfuzzydoug. Sacrifice too much training time for family quality time. Perfect example: Yesterday it was 72 and sunny here. First time all year. A perfect day for a long 50-mile training ride. Buuuuuuuuut instead, I did a 6-mile ride with Gracie on her bike and Kyle on his scooter (who would take breaks to ride in the bike trailer.) Kid still managed about 5 miles on a Razr though! Awesome! Hardly a workout especially with a long break at the farm to see the animals, but whaddyagonnado? It's quality time. goggs, who knew you weren't an altogether bad guy? will you be my valentine ? He does have a little gift for you |
| 2010-02-22 4:16 PM in reply to: #2686822 |
Champion 14571 the alamo city, Texas | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? Big Appa - 2010-02-22 5:15 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 2:13 PM mr2tony - 2010-02-22 5:13 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM Yeah Meh, you're not such a bad guy yourself! mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:57 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM OK no offense BFD, I don't know you or your lifestyle or family, but these things you're pointing out aren't what I'd consider `doing something nice.' I would say cooking dinner and spending time with her and your daughter are things that you should be doing anyway. Again, no offense, and if that's your idea and your wife's idea of doing something nice, then it sounds like it works. As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value.maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread! Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't shower my wife with material gifts... can't afford to, nor would she want it. It's the little things that count; a Katz's pastrami on rye sandwhich here, a coupe of loads of laundry there, the surprise babysitter and date-night, the daddysitter and mommies night out, etc, that mean the most. And as for quality time, that's all my family ever does! Too much in fact. That's the reason I'm BIGfuzzydoug and not FAST-SKINNYfuzzydoug. Sacrifice too much training time for family quality time. Perfect example: Yesterday it was 72 and sunny here. First time all year. A perfect day for a long 50-mile training ride. Buuuuuuuuut instead, I did a 6-mile ride with Gracie on her bike and Kyle on his scooter (who would take breaks to ride in the bike trailer.) Kid still managed about 5 miles on a Razr though! Awesome! Hardly a workout especially with a long break at the farm to see the animals, but whaddyagonnado? It's quality time. goggs, who knew you weren't an altogether bad guy? will you be my valentine ? He does have a little gift for you VERY VERY little. i know. TA TA TA TOOTSIE ROLL |
| 2010-02-22 4:27 PM in reply to: #2686505 |
New user 21 Vista, CA | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? Sprint_DA - 2010-02-22 2:38 PM I hope that this chair I've found in the corner is a safe place to watch from. |
| 2010-02-22 4:36 PM in reply to: #2686823 |
Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? meherczeg - 2010-02-22 4:16 PM Big Appa - 2010-02-22 5:15 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 2:13 PM mr2tony - 2010-02-22 5:13 PM meherczeg - 2010-02-22 3:58 PM Yeah Meh, you're not such a bad guy yourself! mr2tony - 2010-02-22 4:57 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM OK no offense BFD, I don't know you or your lifestyle or family, but these things you're pointing out aren't what I'd consider `doing something nice.' I would say cooking dinner and spending time with her and your daughter are things that you should be doing anyway. Again, no offense, and if that's your idea and your wife's idea of doing something nice, then it sounds like it works. As an aside, I used to buy my wife gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, our anniversary and of course Christmas. But I also cooked dinner oftentimes, made breakfast nearly every weekend day, got up with the dogs in the morning and cleaned the house a lot (mostly because she was a stacker -- she'd stack everything up in piles and let them sit forever). I didn't consider those things as favors to her, they were just part of teh daily routine. Anyway I'm now divorced, so take whatever I say at face value.maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread! Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't shower my wife with material gifts... can't afford to, nor would she want it. It's the little things that count; a Katz's pastrami on rye sandwhich here, a coupe of loads of laundry there, the surprise babysitter and date-night, the daddysitter and mommies night out, etc, that mean the most. And as for quality time, that's all my family ever does! Too much in fact. That's the reason I'm BIGfuzzydoug and not FAST-SKINNYfuzzydoug. Sacrifice too much training time for family quality time. Perfect example: Yesterday it was 72 and sunny here. First time all year. A perfect day for a long 50-mile training ride. Buuuuuuuuut instead, I did a 6-mile ride with Gracie on her bike and Kyle on his scooter (who would take breaks to ride in the bike trailer.) Kid still managed about 5 miles on a Razr though! Awesome! Hardly a workout especially with a long break at the farm to see the animals, but whaddyagonnado? It's quality time. goggs, who knew you weren't an altogether bad guy? will you be my valentine ? He does have a little gift for you VERY VERY little. i know. TA TA TA TOOTSIE ROLL You know you can't resist it. You flew all the way back to Washington to see it. Thankfully I escaped in time. |
| 2010-02-22 4:37 PM in reply to: #2686502 |
Pro 4824 Houston | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? There isn't a single holiday that my husband gives me a gift for that he doesn't also get a gift. |
| 2010-02-22 4:40 PM in reply to: #2686743 |
Pro 4089 Without house | Subject: RE: Why do guys always have to buy the gifts? Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:49 PM maggyruth - 2010-02-22 4:12 PM Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-02-22 3:00 PM Such "He-Man Woman-Haters Club" responses in this thread! Really? Of course, at this point I'm just going to assume that you didn't read my posts. It's ok...I don't need quality time from you...*sniff, sniff* I'm confused. The sarcasm... I think I know why. I probably meant to post that line in the "he's a keeper" thread. I might have been posting to both at the same time and goofed. I was just kinda poking fun because you said "He-man Woman Hater's club"...and I'm a woman. A womanly woman at that. That's all. |
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