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 2010-04-05 2:37 PM |
Veteran 142  |  Subject: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be greatWhat is the best way to get my wife into Tris,,,i am just getting started and have yet to compete,,,, She would be great at this sport,,, she would kill me if she knew i told the world shes 37,,,, runs at a 440 pace all day and can rock on a bike,,,,and hold her own in the pool against pretty much anyone,,,she is very competitive but hesitent to actually compete,,,any suggestions,,,,we train together but how do I get her to compete. |
| 2010-04-05 2:42 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Runner | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great |
| 2010-04-05 2:43 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Pro 5761   Bartlett, TN | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great My wife and I are doing a relay in a Dash N Splash soon. She is a great swimmer, but not a runner. I am hoping that this will spark something, but if not, she will still be my swimming partner. |
| 2010-04-05 2:44 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Payson, AZ | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Don't. If she asks about it then be supportive but never try and push her towards it |
| 2010-04-05 3:06 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Master 1848 Canandaigua | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Mine wife just signed up last night for her first last night. . Notice she signed up not me signing her up. I let her decide on her own. She was happy supporting for years, she did a few 5Ks and decide without any prompting from me to try a tri. |
| 2010-04-05 3:13 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Expert 2189 Dodge County, MN (out in the corn) | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Careful what you wish for. I got my husband into tris and now it's double the entry fees, double the gear budget, double the uniform fees, etc... Get's a bit pricey. But, on the upside, no grief EVER about the time that training takes up.  |
| 2010-04-05 3:14 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Expert 721 Chenequa WI | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Two thoughts for you. Does she have any friends in the sport? My wife is a competitive age-grouper and likes to race, but it’s the training with her friends/teammates that really keeps her going. Also, has she ever watched a triathlon? If not, then invite her to go and watch one with you. It gets a lot of people interested. The excitement is great and, if she’s really competitive (and as good as you said), she’ll look at the participants and think, “I can do that … and do it faster.” |
| 2010-04-05 3:19 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Master 1848 Canandaigua | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great I agree with the watching but try to get her closer like volunteering. When you are that close you get pretty excited. |
| 2010-04-05 3:24 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Regular 174 CT | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great we train together . Thats where all the fun is. I concur, Just let it go. Having not raced yet, your conclusion sounds premature; You could be very right, but you'll never have enough data points to make that decision for her. Just hope she likes what she sees at your first race, and is tempted. And prepare yourself to handle a no in a way that makes her proud of you, not disapointed. |
| 2010-04-05 3:24 PM in reply to: #2769562 |
Master 1517 Western MA near the VT & NH border on the CT river | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Gritty - 2010-04-05 4:14 PM Two thoughts for you. Does she have any friends in the sport? My wife is a competitive age-grouper and likes to race, but it’s the training with her friends/teammates that really keeps her going. Also, has she ever watched a triathlon? If not, then invite her to go and watch one with you. It gets a lot of people interested. The excitement is great and, if she’s really competitive (and as good as you said), she’ll look at the participants and think, “I can do that … and do it faster.” This is the best passive/aggressive way to get her into it IMO. Seeing one in person as a volunteer is what got me motivated 'to give it a tri' Edited by ratherbesnowboarding 2010-04-05 3:29 PM |
| 2010-04-05 3:47 PM in reply to: #2769588 |
Champion 10018 , Minnesota Bronze member | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great What's her hesitation? Ask her that. Maybe she just needs someone to sign her up. My husband is an excellent cyclist but just has NO competitive desire. He will ride his bike, all day long, all year long, and easily outbikes me. But he just simply doesn't care. I wanted him to try a TT at a race I was doing, and offered to sign him up, and just didn't want to. Edit: He's competitive, in the sense that he likes to push himself to pass people on the bike trail! Just doesn't like a formal race and couldn't care less about overall standings and whatnot. It's true that if your spouse also competes you lose your race day support, it's expensive, etc. My girl friend also races with her husband and she misses the support he's able to offer her when he's not doing a race. Edited by BikerGrrrl 2010-04-05 3:48 PM |
| 2010-04-05 4:04 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
Expert 1007 NW NJ | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Wait Wait Wait... I'm still stuck on 4:40 pace! If she doesn't want to race, which is her perogitave, can I buy her 4:40 pace from her? I'm in dire need of some speed! Do you take paypal? |
| 2010-04-05 4:17 PM in reply to: #2769677 |
Pro 4353 Wallingford, PA | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great mchubri` - 2010-04-05 5:04 PM Wait Wait Wait... I'm still stuck on 4:40 pace! If she doesn't want to race, which is her perogitave, can I buy her 4:40 pace from her? I'm in dire need of some speed! Do you take paypal? I may be wrong, but I think that was "440 pace", or basically sprinting.... |
 2010-04-05 4:20 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
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| 2010-04-05 4:28 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Master 1286 Mt Pleasant, SC | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Hello Get her some information for an all womens race. Maybe that would help her decide to race with no guys around. Kevin |
| 2010-04-05 7:14 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Veteran 279 Raeford, North Carolina | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Not sure if anyone else said this because at the moment I'm being lazy and not reading all the replies to your OP but if she's all ultra competitive, tell her you'd kick her butt and she'd stand no chance against you. Maybe even throw in the fact that she wouldn't stand a chance against you because she's a woman. If the former wouldn't make her mad enough to want to compete, then I'm pretty sure the latter of the two would. Just a bit of friendly/manipulative reverse-psychology. that's what I would do to my lady! |
| 2010-04-05 7:21 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Pro 4824 Houston | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great I wouldn't worry about getting her interested. Have her come to your race and encourage her to volunteer with you at another race and see if she catches the fever. |
| 2010-04-05 7:29 PM in reply to: #2769560 |
| Member 35 | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great rowdypaint - 2010-04-05 3:13 PM Careful what you wish for. I got my husband into tris and now it's double the entry fees, double the gear budget, double the uniform fees, etc... Get's a bit pricey. But, on the upside, no grief EVER about the time that training takes up. x2 |
| 2010-04-05 7:31 PM in reply to: #2769562 |
| Master 1366 PNW | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great Gritty - 2010-04-05 1:14 PM Also, has she ever watched a triathlon? If not, then invite her to go and watch one with you. It gets a lot of people interested. The excitement is great and, if she’s really competitive (and as good as you said), she’ll look at the participants and think, “I can do that … and do it faster.” This. I'm super competitive (it's actually a hinderance often enough). My husband knew this, and purposely took me to a cyclocross race because he really wanted to race and he wanted a partner in his insanity. It *almost* worked! I left there thinking I was gonna do it! Of course, then we moved across the country and then I got the tri bug - so it never actually happened. But yes, if she is an athlete already AND she is competitive by nature? Seeing a race in person will probably push her over the edge. One other thought - could she be abstaining to avoid showing you up? I know plenty of super athletic women who purposely choose not to compete in certain sports so as not to steal thunder from their spouses. Sounds stupid - but it happens. |
| 2010-04-05 7:57 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| New user 96 | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great find a tri with a husband wife category...I've seen a couple but can't remember where |
| 2010-04-05 9:22 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| 119 | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great My wife and I are currently training for our first Sprint later this year. Training together has definitely helped with competing. Now we are competing against each other, so fun times. The reason why I signed up is because I watched a bike race of hers, so it may work the same for you. Cheers. |
| 2010-04-05 10:36 PM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Master 1903 Portland, Oregon | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great My DH and I train together all the time. He just isn't interested in the competing part. We do runs - several 5Ks, 10Ks and a half-mary, but he just isn't into the rest. He's great at the cheering though, and since we both train, we can both complain about how sore our legs are and how fast the group ride was or whatever. Enjoy what you do together - don't worry about the competition part so much. some people truly just aren't interested. Besides, after you test the waters with your event, maybe she'll want to try it as well. |
| 2010-04-06 11:32 AM in reply to: #2769465 |
| Veteran 142 | Subject: RE: Getting my spouse to compete,,,,she would be great To answer a few question,,,, she is faster then me (running),,,, stays with me on the bike,,,but I do kill her in the water,,,, Her pace (running) per KM is around 4min40sec for a HM,,,give or take a sec or two for tjhe elevation changes,,,, I cant munipulate her cause she is smarter then me,,,, And if my first HIM dont kill me,,,saying you cant do it cause your a women would most likely. Thanks for the hints though. |
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