Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 3.0 (Page 2)

I have two hobbies right now, and I couldn't imagine throwing in a third.  I imagine horseback riding is pretty time consuming.

Between Triathlon, and Scuba diving I have a hard time fitting in paintball and I really want to take up skydiving as well as get my pilots lic.

Maybe this is why I am still single playing the field I just don't have time for anyone. And I have too many hobbies and some demanding hours from work now.

I would like to try crossfit but it is still kind of new to my town and very new instructors and too costly.

Plus I help my friends running store run "Learn to run clinics"

I have wanted to go horse back riding for years. I did it about 15 years ago several times but there really isn't anywhere around me to go.

I had never even thought of this as a place full of women. Maybe I should go. There is a small place near me but no real trails or anything for long rides. It is mostly geared towards kids.

You are newly single after being in a long relationship. Now is the time to work on you and what you want and find a person that fits into that not fitting yourself into only what they want.

Go get the pilot’s license and everything else now

Same here. I think if I got a third hobby, my dog might be crazier than he already is. Maybe I just need to take him on walks past more female rich environments.

Alright guys and gals.  First off, Happy Friday!  I hope everyone has fun and exciting plans for the weekend.  

With the pleasantries out of the way, this will be half rant, half advice request.  I've been dating kickball girl for a while now, and things are going great for the most part....BUT as part of the kickball culture, there's drinking afterward, and she gets smashed when she drinks.  

I'm for social drinking, but to the point to where you're barely keeping yourself standing?  That's a bit much to me at least.  She's fine when she's not like that, but to be brutally honest, it's not very attractive when she's in that state.  At times it can be downright embarrassing.

How do I handle this?  Do I tell her how I don't like it?  Am I overreacting? 

Dating is all part of finding out who the real person is.  If you don't like it, talk to her about it and if you guys can't come to a solution, cut the cord.  I know I couldn't handle that.  Better to part ways now than to let it continue.  

Do you see each other outside of kickball? What is she like then? Maybe move the relationship to have more time with just the two of you.

If she's still getting smashed at a one on one date...yikes.

How old is she?

Yeah we do.  Like I said, she's great then.  However, she doesn't drink a lot when it's just us either.  She's 32, which makes me surprised that I'm running into this issue.

That's tough, because you don't want to come off as accusatory or judgmental but you don't want to ignore what could potentially be a huge problem. How long have you been seeing her?

On my end, something is IN THE AIR!

Date tonight.
Date tomorrow night (different guy).
Ex re-friended me on facebook, is chatty (ha!).
Other ex wants to "meet up" (ha!).
Date next Saturday night (3rd guy).

Horray? 

I would say that we've been "dating" (I hate titles in relationships) for about 3 weeks now I guess.  We've known each other for about 6 months or so though.

I agree that it's tough.  I feel like if I say something about it, I come off as controlling.  I can say it as nice as I can, but she'll internally hear it as "stop drinking so much or we're done!", which isn't what I want to convey.  At the same time, I don't like it and I feel like I should say something not just for me, but for her as well.  Drinking like that simply isn't healthy.

At least you'll be busy.  Good luck!

Did a pilot invent the term airhead?  Let that sink in and think about it for a second.

How old is she?  is it once a week?  I think once you hit you're 30s, once a week obliterated is a lot.  A nice buzz?  maybe. But smashed and unable to function due to hangover? nope.

edit:  32...eh, she should know how to handle it.  Or cut it down a little. After all, how are you guys getting home?

congrats Lisa. I continue to have men that look like gorillas crossed with bowling balls as my possibilities.  And the odd ball that I dated that wouldn't touch me STILL texts me randomly.  5 more yesterday after 3 weeks of no contact. He's so weird.

Did you change perfume or something? 

Teejaay - 2013-04-17 11:13 AM

Pector55 - 2013-04-17 8:03 AMIt's just a natural way to start a thread when the previous one was "frozen."  One would expect a bit more heat from a dating thread.

I'm responding from the kitchen ...while cooking bacon ...in my undies. I'm feeling the heat.

Yum! 

... and I like bacon too

I usually drive, as I don't drink more than two or three beers.  She normally crashes with another woman on the team that lives nearby when she gets that bad.  

I agree that she should know how to handle it.  She's done this twice in the time we've been dating. 

Does anyone else get these messages on dating sites from someone who is "only in town for tonight" and wants to go out?

I got two in one day this week... and have gotten them in the past.

I wonder what their success rate is!

That does seem excessive. I would try and approach it delicately as to not be accusatory. 

As for me, no dates planned this weekend, but next week I do have date #2 with a girl I met a couple weeks ago. First date was a beer event at the Science Museum, which was fun. I guess I wasn't too big of a science nerd, because she agreed to date #2. We are going to go to dinner next week.

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" - Wayne Gretzky

Yep. And sending messages like that on an online dating site are low risk, high reward if it works. 

Yep but they had contacted me before they were in the area.  I've met a few of them but only after chatting on the phone and being very clear that we were just meeting up and that this was not going to be a hook-up.  

May I crash the party?  Now that my divorce drama has passed, I'm ready to let the world know I'm available. 

Been having fun on OKC for 2.5 months and even started a 7 week long "uncommitted relationship" who just went down in flames last week. (Why do men think it's ok to lie even after I confirmed the lie????) 

To help me feel better I joined match.  Two, possibly three dates this week.  I might need help perfecting my profile.  Getting way too many messages from married Indian men or men 15+ yrs older than I am.